Happy

[Lucyloo1986]

I just want to know if people are happier after having children or not? I wonder if I would be happier without which makes me feel like an awful human being?

Personally I've been happier since I've had my children, they have brought previously unimagined joy to my life. But not everyone feels that way. Not wanting to have children is perfectly OK too.

How many do you have? I have a lot of issues with my dad growing up and I feel like I’m taking it out on my children. He was very strict and I’m either lovely and laid back or really really strict. I don’t know how to find the balance?

Since having children I feel moments of genuine joy that I very rarely felt before having them.
I quite often feel very content and complete around my children.
But then I also sometimes feel really low in ways that I didn’t before having children. They are completely life changing.

Maybe I just didn’t expect my life to change so drastically. It’s just relentless. But then I feel selfish for saying that. I love them but just annoyed at myself all the time that I’m not doing a good enough job. I just hope I’m going to make them good, confident people.