I am not really happy about one of ds's friendships...but I don't want to be too precious about it...

[fillyjonk]

I feel so bloody precious posting that but...I need some perspective

he is nearly 4, he is friends with a nearly 5 yo girl who lives in the next road but the way the houses are arranged it means its easy for them to play together IYKWIM.

he is very friendly, talk to anyone sort.

She seems to be a going through an odd phase. She will invite him over, then make him go home. She'll lend him a toy then ask for it back and say, "oh I didn't mean you could borrow it,", then laugh. Or she'll tell him he should come over and then she'll say "oh no you can't come over tommorrow, what were you thinking? i have x over and I like x more than you".

Its not upsetting him yet, he's riding with it, but I dunno, my motherly hackles are up at this.

He does have plenty of other friends, but I don't want to be stopping him playing with kids unless I really have to. I ALWAYS said I wouldn't do such a thing.

so. Am I being overprotective? Is this just a daft phase she is going through? Should I get over myself?

Don't think the mother is likely to percieve a problem here, tbh. Am not really willing to talk to her, it wouldn't be productive (oh loooong story)

Thoughts?

gosh

i do too now

is it a Secret Job?

Franny
Your 16.42 post made my blood run cold
DH's stepbrother has married a woman exactly like this
I shall blame it on his childhood

I'd love to, haven't seen you for ages... shall I cook something?

See franca? Now get them to move into your street and you're home dry.

No need to cook anything, unless you really want to, that is....blokes and children invited too, 3pm-ish until as late as you like. It will be nice to see you!

(Sorry for hijack...)

ah, it'd be lovely to have the greenies as neighbours (instead of the evil woman next door), smelling gs freshly baked cakes... chucking the children at hers and forget to collect them at the end of the day...

no problem Greeny, come in here, ignore us and invite your best mates to your party, that is Just Fine

Mmmmmm, I love the smell of sour grapes

God imagine living next to Greeny

the incessant jangling at 4 am

the smells wafting over the fence after she has had a day on the raw veg

the fiddle playing

lol!
we can compete on the smell though.

my three year old girl is starting to become erm bossy. I feel v bossed somedays.

I am wondering how to defalte the bossiness without squishing her character but suspect I may have to do some extreme Role Modelling for it to work.

He might not be bothered you know. If he was how do you think he would behave?

On the other side of the fence a friend of mines DS drags all his toys from my dd (same age) and pushes her about every chance he gets. She can be in another room and he suddenly decides to go and have a bit of a shove. No idea how to handle that, his mum is fab and does all the right things every time but my dd was v subdued the last time we were round. Not normal for her I must say weak . Ans sometimes they play fine? Have no idea.(3 yr old is PFB)

I wouldn't stop your son playing with his "friend", but I would talk to him about the way she is behaving and give him some advice on how to deal with it, including telling him why you don't think he should just put up with it. I very definitely wouldn't talk to the mother - it's one for the children to sort out, but with some guidance.