I am not really happy about one of ds's friendships...but I don't want to be too precious about it...

[fillyjonk]

I feel so bloody precious posting that but...I need some perspective

he is nearly 4, he is friends with a nearly 5 yo girl who lives in the next road but the way the houses are arranged it means its easy for them to play together IYKWIM.

he is very friendly, talk to anyone sort.

She seems to be a going through an odd phase. She will invite him over, then make him go home. She'll lend him a toy then ask for it back and say, "oh I didn't mean you could borrow it,", then laugh. Or she'll tell him he should come over and then she'll say "oh no you can't come over tommorrow, what were you thinking? i have x over and I like x more than you".

Its not upsetting him yet, he's riding with it, but I dunno, my motherly hackles are up at this.

He does have plenty of other friends, but I don't want to be stopping him playing with kids unless I really have to. I ALWAYS said I wouldn't do such a thing.

so. Am I being overprotective? Is this just a daft phase she is going through? Should I get over myself?

Don't think the mother is likely to percieve a problem here, tbh. Am not really willing to talk to her, it wouldn't be productive (oh loooong story)

Thoughts?

aw sorry franca

we live between 2 large (1 very large) families and there are other young children in the street

it's a mixed blessing that is for sure

there were no gunksters in Sesame Street

Filly, it is a phase which they go through, I think girls in particular.

My dd is 6 and is super-bossy atm - but mainly towards someone she thinks she can get away with bossing around, ie, her younger brother! I wouldn't worry too much unless your ds is upset by her behaviour.

Does this little girl have any siblings?

mine also

franny this is a bit worrying, isn't it? christ is there a pattern ?

oh crap i could be expelled from EO for such sayings, i expect

no, only child

i THINK she likes ds, because he is quite girly also.

and he has more pairs of shoes than her, at least BEFORE she comes to visit....

Are you? Is such a brave decision. That sounds like a euphamism for something else, but really isn't.
Lots of HE kids get together don't they? So that'll all be fine. Good to play on the street. Go Franny's ds in de hood.

ah, sounds nice!

fily - are you planning to HE too? Is that what you mean? Yes, is pattern in that case.

Filly, I knew your answer either going to be she's an only child or the youngest of 3!

oooh mercy, mine's the youngest of 3. Hence the problem with borrowing a pen if you're noooot weaaaring pink sooocks?

oh he has lots and lots of other friends

and this is the only friendship that makes me

I am not prone to . i am not one of those mothers constantly bending over their kid and saying "are you ok x? are you happy with y's behaviour?"

Haha! It's just a pattern I've noticed with other friends children and also dd's own (mostly female) friends!

Girls seem need someone younger to boss around!

I don't know about your ds Filly, but for mine it is definitely a GOOD experience for him to be a small fish in a big pond

if you met him you would see what I mean

I think Filly was talking about a pattern of coming in talking about gunksters

Oh god, I really want to ask it franny, but am frightened to in case you think I have axe to grind (which I don't but am just intrigued) okay, no, can't stop it - if it's good to be small fish in big pond, then why no school?

Can I just say right now, for the record, you absolutely do NOT have to explain your life decisions to me. I won't even tell you what job I do fgs.

ooh Filly, tricky one. Probably does affect you more than him, and if he starts minding, he can just walk away, yes? But I know how this kind of thing makes you feel

LOL at everyone

erm this is quite a small big pond, and it is only for an hour or so, and I am right here to intervene if necessary

the home ed thing is more for me about the educational stuff - how children learn, and how enthusiastic and sponge-like they are aged 4, and how they feel about learning after 10 years of being in the school system

thank you. most interesting.

good lord 100x most people are desperately rude to me on here about my idiosyncrasies

you don't have to go all Japanese for fear of crushing my delicate petals

oh no, am not like that really. Was just interested why people decide to HE. Don't make judgements on such things as a rule.

It is probably something that I would struggle to sum up in a paragraph, but don't mind being asked about it at all

now about your job....

exactly I want to know all about 100 job.

We ALL do, franca