Just get a sense that there's all these parents who are into attachment parenting who think everyone else should subscribe to their way.
What if you don't want to breastfeed your baby until they are two, or you don't want to cluster feed. Sometimes the advice to keep at it is not helpful- particularly if it is affecting the mother's mental health.
Or the advice to co sleep, rather than get baby used to their cot- some parents don't sleep well using this method and it affects people's relationships.
Or (and this is the one that gets on my wick)- you must go to your baby every time it cries (even if its just a little) as it will develop depression and anxiety when it is older of you don't. That's what all the studies say apparently.
Even to the detriment of parents. Suffer extreme sleep deprivation, let your baby's sleep be interrupted constantly in the night- rather than ignore a few little whinges. Btw- my baby cried for two mins last night when he went in his cot, he doesn't really want to go to sleep. He made two small noises and two cries of 20 seconds last night. I did not go to him. He slept through.
He's happy now he sleeps through, no more grizzles, I'm happier, can do stuff. I'm not lethargic.
Why do these people not consider the impact on the mother and ultimately the mother child relationship of all this self sacrifice and sleep deprivation?
Surely us mothers need to look after ourselves and our mental wellbeing as ultimately it will affect our children's wellbeing. Shouldn't mothers be encouraged to be less selfless- do we really have to put up with waking millions of times in the night to breastfeed and having our baby in our beds tossing and turning etc...
I feel better now I have this off my chest.