Why is my husband so horriblr

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My dh has just asked me if ive lost any weight yet and when will my big fat belly go. He is asking this as i sit cuddling my one day old baby. He is being such a dick just sat in the chair on otherside of room all through labour and birth. Brought me some flowers and then shouted you havent even put the fucking flowers in the vase! He hates all tge names on my listwhich all mean something personal to me and when i ask him what names he likes he says he doesnt know so looks at lists on his phone and throws random names at me demanding explanation as to why i dont like them, yet when i ask him why he doesnt like my list he says they r just stupid. !!i could go on!!

And he was a bag of charm when u met him? Or is this a sudden turn of events. You have a life time of this ahead of u or not if you chose to sling his rotten arse out

He is a cunt. You might wish to reply that as it took 9 months to grow your baby it'll take about the same to for your body to recover. Or just call him a cunt and tell him to fuck off.

Congratulations. May I suggest that the enormity of bringing another human into the world, that you will have to care for, love and support might just be a bit stressful. Men imo do ask the silliest of questions at these times. Relax and enjoy your new born. BTW did you shout at him that you would never have sex with him again ever when you were in labour? Oh and get off MN to enjoy your newborn.

Tell him to fuck off and focus on your tiny baby.

Sorry I was still slowly typing before the first two replies. OP please ignore them.

Elephant please tell me I’m reading your post wrong. Are you suggesting his verbally and emotional abusive behaviour is merely a response to having a new baby!?

What an absolute pile of shit.

OP this made me so sad. He sounds horrible and I really hope you can take your new baby and just get away from him. It’s NOT normal to speak to your partner as he is speaking to you. When my baby was born, my partner told me it was the most beautiful thing seeing me breastfeed her. I’ve been to visit my friend with a newborn today - her partner was equally lovely. I’m not telling you this to upset you - I’m telling you to help your realise that this is NOT normal “new Dad” behaviour and you have control of your destiny. If he’s like this usually, think about your little baby and do what’s best for you both.

you can lose several stone of useless flesh by getting rid of the horrible husband - please do keep this suggestion in mind

And no his behaviour does not fall within the category of “man stressed out by wife giving birth”

That’s awful. Really horrible. Can you send him away till he gets his head together?

Elephant are you telling the op to ignore my post ? ??

FWIW my husband was utterly overwhelmed by everything after 2nd birth. The first had been a dream, the second was nightmarish, crash team, transfusions, the lot. I was smacked off my tits on morphine and he was shitting himself. He was a dick. Once we got home he was ok again. I wasn’t impressed at all but I know why he did it.

I can not believe he is speaking to you this way! No matter how much stress he is feeling he does not get to speak to you like this. That is abusive. What a shit. I would toss him out the door right now. I feel terrible for you OP please don't let this ruin your first day home with your new baby.

It really doesn't matter how overwhelmed a man is at a new baby coming along he does not have the right to be abusive.

I agree, absolutely. But the “LTB” comments are just likely to put more pressure on the OP at THE most emotionally charged point in her life.

He’s acting like a dick, no mistake. But context etc

WTF elephantoverthehill

Ask him why he’s being so nasty.
Is his knowledge of biology so poor?
Does he understand what you’ve been through?
He sounds despicable.

so a new baby is in the world, a time when joy should be forthcoming.. yet he's sat making you feel like shit on purpose?

is he 5years old? having a little tantrum because he's not centre of attention?
I'm surprised you found him attractive enough to sleep with tbh.

as for:
Men imo do ask the silliest of questions at these times.
there's silly and there's being an insensitive jackass cunt.

PPs I would rather you direct your vitriol at me rather than a new mum who may be very vulnerable at present. OP I hope you all the best but now is the time to enjoy your baby, possibly exclusively, at least for tonight

What is he saying and doing to you is really not nice, is he always like this?

Congratulations on your baby!

You're probably quite a few Pindar lighter than before you gave birth. No many people lose that much weight so quickly.

Has he always been a massive dick?

At what stage did I direct vitriol as the op @elephantoverthehill?

Elephant it’s not vitriol. We care too. But normalising horrible behaviour won’t help her.

Oh my god.. can't believe what I just read!! Fk me if my partner talked to me like that he would have to then leave the house rapidly as otherwise the shit would fly.. sorry to say babe but leave him... vvvveeerrrryyy soon I know it is easy for me to say and so very hard to do with a new baby but never ever believe what he has said to you is true...all mumma's are beautiful and you are too and can do better than him.. f**king twat!! Xx

I refuse to normalise shitty behaviour by men or women. @elephantoverthehill as it is not helpful.

What a piece of shit he is! Do not tolerate being spoken to like that...youve just had a baby and should be supportive!

He's acting like a twat- and that's phrasing it nicely. How incredibly rude can you get? I honestly don't think I could forgive that