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Why is my husband so horriblr

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bugspigs003 · 26/05/2018 21:32

My dh has just asked me if ive lost any weight yet and when will my big fat belly go. He is asking this as i sit cuddling my one day old baby. He is being such a dick just sat in the chair on otherside of room all through labour and birth. Brought me some flowers and then shouted you havent even put the fucking flowers in the vase! He hates all tge names on my listwhich all mean something personal to me and when i ask him what names he likes he says he doesnt know so looks at lists on his phone and throws random names at me demanding explanation as to why i dont like them, yet when i ask him why he doesnt like my list he says they r just stupid. !!i could go on!!

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elephantoverthehill · 26/05/2018 22:18

I'm just trying to support a woman who has given birth recently.

TimeToDrinkDecaff · 26/05/2018 22:19

This is one of the saddest OPs I’ve ever read. Congratulations on your baby, your husband’s behaviour sounds appalling. He should be worshipping the ground you walk on right now, showing you nothing but appreciation for growing and delivering his child, and waiting on you hand and foot whilst telling you how amazing you are. Cuddle your baby close, look after yourself

KlutzyDraconequus · 26/05/2018 22:20

I'm just trying to support a woman who has given birth recently.

seems more like you're defending a twat of a man for being a twat to me.

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GertrudeCB · 26/05/2018 22:22

Well said Klutzy

clumsyduck · 26/05/2018 22:22

Yeh elephant I think everyone is trying to support op

Her oh is a cunt , you can't normalise or pander to that behaviour . He's not being a bit off because he is tired out is he he's being nasty and aggressive and calling the mother of his baby fat the day after she gave birth .

There is no excusing that behaviour

Eatmycheese · 26/05/2018 22:24

That is so sad. My heart breaks for you.
He is a loathsome piece of shit and undeserving of his precious child you risked your life to bring into this world. Not fit to lick your boots.

There is NEVER the right moment to ask such a cruel question of a woman you are supposed to love but to utter those words when she gave birth a day ago, well it’s beyond foul.

I won’t tell you what to do as it’s not my life but I would quite like to club him around the head with something blunt and heavy for you.

💐

gamerchick · 26/05/2018 22:26

elephantoverthehill

Sorry I was still slowly typing before the first two replies. OP please ignore them

Whut? just how high is your bar if that's what you come out with to a new mum who's having to put up with that shit?

OP mark his cards and set your bar high. You grew and gave birth to a brand new human that he gave half to. If he can't treat you with the respect you deserve then you need to have a think about just how much you want to be exposed too. Along with your child.

Lookatyourwatchnow · 26/05/2018 22:29

Congratulations OP! I'm so sorry that your husband is being such a massive twat, his comments are outrageous. And still would be if you were one year down the line, but one day?!

elephantoverthehill · 26/05/2018 22:33

Please all of you stop trying to 'score points' and think about the MH issues that are very possible after someone has given birth. The OP has asked for advice but ........

clumsyduck · 26/05/2018 22:36

Oh my god stop !!

How is it helpful to make it seem like op is overacting by diminishing her dhs behaviour into something acceptable .

You are seriously infuriating me , your advice is bad and potentially dangerous . Stop.

GertrudeCB · 26/05/2018 22:39

Elephant the only person trying to score points is you, with your " poor menz" attitude.
Your handmaiden philosophy is damaging and worrying.

KlutzyDraconequus · 26/05/2018 22:39

think about the MH issues that are very possible after someone has given birth.

good advice
now think how much damage that MH will suffer with a non supportive, insulting cunt of a partner.

AssassinatedBeauty · 26/05/2018 22:41

OP, do you have any family that are kind and supportive, like your mum maybe? Can someone apart from your husband come and support you for now given that your husband isn't.

The way he is speaking to you is not normal and is exceptionally unkind. Is this new behaviour for him or has he always been like this?

MsGameandWatching · 26/05/2018 22:43

Elephant are you drunk? Your posts are utterly nonsensical.

PrettyLovely · 26/05/2018 22:49

Kick him out, You can do better on your own than with someone who treats you like that. Dont let him ruin this special time with you and your baby.
Congratulations on the birth of your new baby op

NameChangedForThisQ · 26/05/2018 22:52

Tell him to fuck off. He's horrible because he wants to be horrible. Looking after a baby alone will be easier than with this POS.

GooodMythicalMorning · 26/05/2018 22:54

Poor you. He sounds like an idiot

elephantoverthehill · 26/05/2018 22:54

MsGameandWatching ?
That was quite rude. Or should I do a mumsnetty head tilt?

Eatmycheese · 26/05/2018 23:02

Elephant you make me think of that disturbing scene in Hairspray with the quack shrinks and their psychedelic spiral thing. It is rather troubling

You’ll be suggesting a cup of hot sweet tea and that she gives him a back rub next.

The only person with mental health issues in this situation is the OP’s so called partner who will end up ruining her peace of mind with his fucked up hideousness if this is anything to go by.

elephantoverthehill · 26/05/2018 23:08

Please forget the odious partner and concentrate on the OP and the baby. The first few days are so important. I really hope she took my advice in my first post to get off MN.

clumsyduck · 26/05/2018 23:09

But the post is about the partner . That's the only issue op is having

KlutzyDraconequus · 26/05/2018 23:11

I really hope she took my advice in my first post to get off MN.

sounds like advice you should follow tbf.

MilesHuntsWig · 26/05/2018 23:14

That’s not ok or acceptable OP. Can you go somewhere to get away from him?

elephantoverthehill · 26/05/2018 23:23

KlutzyDraconequus Thank you for your advice. Very sage.

MsGameandWatching · 27/05/2018 00:41

You can if you like elephant. After though, you should drink a few pints of water and take yourself off to bed 🛏

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