Kids playing out on the street?

[jessieb887]

We've just moved house 4 weeks ago and it's a quiet culdesac so made the decision to let our boys play out the front yesterday with the other kids some of which are younger than mine at 5 1/2 and 4 1/2.
Only for this to happen today my eldest comes back upset, he was playing with another child from the street in his garden and the dad of the kid told my son to bugger off?? Am I wrong in thinking that is majorly out of order? I'm furious but don't know how to deal with it? The dad then later drove past my house whilst I'm outside and told me very abruptly to stop my children playing in his house I had no idea they were in his house? He had come home and they were in there why didn't the Mum just say no when her son let them all in??
Mine have never played on the street till now so I'm very new to this territory.

As I said in my original post I'm new to all this and all the other children play out with no supervision what so ever. It is a rural culdesac so not busy with traffic or anything. So having seen the other children playing and how safe they are that's why we made the decision to allow ours out. I will drum into them they don't go in gardens and they definately don't go in peoples houses. Any other advice?

Wow. This isn’t even aibu. Ffs what’s happening to mumsnet recently.

Oh definitely the latter eddie it's ridiculous!

This isn't an AIBU post!

Sorry op. It’s the age old aibu formula, you can see why I was confused.

Op: Aibu
Everyone: Yes
Op: But no I’m not stop being mean
One lone voice: YANBU
Op: phew thank goodness

It's not AIBU though is it? It's not a lone voice either.

I don't think you should drum into them not to go in people's gardens. You already said the mum said it was fine!

Jessie another piece of advice I would give you is to limit kids coming into your house/garden as much as possible. It sounds mean but as a newbie you can end up as free child care for cheeky neighbours, and there are kids who will practically move in with you if they get the chance.

Yes definitely I don't want to be used as that. And I know how quickly that can happen from our old house there were older boys over the road who did that to quite a few people on the street. So I know how annoying that is.

Mama bear I can't have this happen again though and I can't stop it happening unless I ban gardens? You know what kids are like by the sounds of it always pushing boundaries

At no point were they out alone I was out on the front too and they were playing 3 doors down

You didn't know they were in someones house, so thats clearly not true.

They were in the little boys garden, the Mum should go just said no to them being in the house? She allowed them in the garden so quite clearly knew they were there?

Her 3 yr old came here wanting to be in the house I said no simple!

I do understand your reply. I just read don't understand its relevance to this thread, as they weren't in your back garden. Which was the problem you asked about. If they'd been in your back garden you wouldn't have him to start this thread

OP I live somewhere with a very similar sounding set up (although outside of the UK) all the kids play out, go to each other's gardens and sometimes into their houses. When parents don't want the kids in the house, it's time to eat etc kids are sent out/home. I love that my kids get to play out with this degree of freedom. Luckily we don't have anyone who minds the setup so no rudeness from fellow parents.

I would just say not to go in that particular family's house OP but it's up to you.

Keep telling your DC's what they can and can not do when they are playing out. My ds knows exactly how far he can go when he is playing out. He knows he must come to ask me if he can go into friends back gardens or into their houses. We discuss stranger danger regularly and what he should do if he feels uncomfortable in someone's house. He knows to always be polite in other people's houses.

Could your DC's have done something to upset the dad? Do you think you could speak to him about it?

The dad sounds like a asshole. I wouldn't be letting them play out of there own garden till you know the area and neighbours a bit better. But you did nothing wrong op.

The Dad sounds vile .

There is a lot of drip feeding on this , you were in garden , Mum had said ok, rural

However you didn’t know where your children were because they were in someone’s house . Do you really want your children in a house like that.

At that age my dc must be in my sight

What the bloody hell, you don't let your kids out of sight at that age, let alone in a strangers garden who has incidentally turned out to be a madman anyway!

They weren't in a strangers garden!

No they were in a strangers house!

The house they were in is a woman I know granted not as a friend but I know her! And my husband knows the dad so not a stranger!

Strange you didn't mention all that...

If you read the whole thread you would know.