AIBU to think when I’m sick DH should get up to baby?

[GlitterCity]

Hi, I’ve been up in the night throwing up with diarrhoea and bad nausea and stomach cramps to point I’ve been in a lot of pain; this has caused bad headaches. I’m frightened to sip water incase it sets it off again. We have 11 month old ds who is frequently waking up in the night at the moment and heavy. I get up with him every night as dh goes to work early. Should dh have seen to him last night? In the morning he had cheek to say ‘Oh I would have got him.’ With a thumping headache I could have swung for him as the answer is no he wouldn’t have as chose to ignore ds’s crying and knew about it as he was awake at the time and chose to do nothing.
Is it me are us women left with the raw need of the deal while men just seem to get away with everything? I feel that unwell at the moment I don’t know how I’ll get out of bed again when ds wakes up. Dh has one leave day left which he could have used today and let me to have slept last night. To add insult to injury he hasn’t even asked how I was feeling this morning and has just gone to work. I could cry. Sorry about all of this I think I needed a moan.

That’s awful @Glitter, hopefully he reads these responses and sees how unreasonable he is being! Hope you feel better soon, I’ve had to recently be more assertive with my DH over helping me out. He is brilliant with our 3 month old it is more the perpetual mess he leaves everywhere. He says the “fairies” pick it up for him! 🙄

Thanks to Babdoc and namechange30. I’ve had a massive talk to dh and hopefully things will be abit better from here on out if not than more drastic measures will have to take place.

Babdoc You went through such a terrible time when you were younger but I’m pleased everything is a lot better now. Your dh will be watching over you and with you in everything you do.

Namechange dh has swore to me that he doesn’t have my password and that he just guessed i’d be writing something on here and was being vindictive, I told him I wasn’t into game playing and he’s apologised. I’m definitely more cautious after all of this that’s for sure.

Thanks Hazandduck haha I can completely relate to that theory. Dh thinks we have a whole family of live in domesticated invisible fairies clearing up everything. He cannot fathom where it all goes!?!