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"How to talk so kdis will listenand listen so kids will talk" - anyone want to go trhough this book?

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Porcupine · 01/05/2007 16:58

and see hwat we think of it?

Its wuite heavy reading( not intellectually) just very close set type and lots of americna egs
But i reckon we cna do it.

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incywincy · 04/05/2007 13:15

hi,

don't know if its been mentioned but the book is £4.99 from school link and comes with the teenage version too. see here school link

ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:15

Yes, you should have and then you could have said, wouldn't it be great if Jon Ronson could call in all our cats and be laughed at by neighbours all over the country and I'd have felt validated and appeased.
I'm keen to press on to Chapter 4 teach, that's how I am.
(See I always to smart-alecky and impatient to ever qualify as teacher's pet).

PeterAndreFanCLub · 04/05/2007 13:16

no mroe chapters til we haev trolley updates

( NB you dont have ot haev a trolely to offer alternatives to punishemnt) do you wnat a ntoehr chapter 3 eg from the book???

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ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:16

Oh, you said 'who' not 'how'. I'm ahundred times. And if I've asked you once to get on with chapter four, I've asked you...

PeterAndreFanCLub · 04/05/2007 13:17

( re. cats the neighbour hwo is ocming tonight has a nicghbor who is rather posh and is about 70 and evey night clls her two cats in

" timothy jeffrey" lolol

and her dh is called tim ( my mate)

PeterAndreFanCLub · 04/05/2007 13:17

or rather timoooooooothy, jefffffffffffffffry

like that

PeterAndreFanCLub · 04/05/2007 13:18

ok must eat
then net chapter

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:20

lol ahundredtimes I too have my shopping trolley ready (and it was a blardy nightmare getting it home...)

PeterAndreFanCLub · 04/05/2007 13:20

rofl

ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:20

Okay, so does it go like this.
DS2 I won't go to school today. I'd rather stay at home and play with the dwarfs.
100 Aha, I see, uhuh.
DS2 I won't put on my shoes or socks.
100 Wouldn't it be great if we never wore shoes or socks.
DS2 The dwarfs wouldn't either then.
100 No. But If you don't get them on I will have to put you in this shopping trolley, which I have brought back from Sainsburys last night.

?? doesn't sound right to me. I think we need an example.

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:27

ok while you're eating and we're all waiting for chapter 4, here's my example of alternatives to punishment:

After munch DS gets up and leaves the table

me "DSdon't forget your plate" (house rule: take plate to kitchen after eating)

DS NO you do it today for me mummy

me "DS please take your plate to the kitchen"

DS but I don't want to...I have a headache...you do it

Me "It's your responsibility, please take it to the kitchen"

DS Oh oh oh

Me "well, if you leave it there it won't get washed up so won't be clean for supper tonight"

DS takes plate to kitchen and says "yuk, a dirty plate for SUPPER!!! that would be funny!"

Did I do it right miss? Did I??

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:29

pmsl ahundredtimes!

(my shopping trolley has become dumping ground for everything, clothes, bags, shoes...)

ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:30

God you're good CW. You did 'consequences'. Wish I'd done that. And they were brilliant, dirty plate consequences too.

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:32

I know, but emagine if I'd had to carry it through coz he didn't take the plate to kitchen???

ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:32

Other possible uses because it's taking up a lot of space in the hallway - dirty plates (obviously), dwarfs (natch), laundry, all other childcare books because we won't be needing them now will we?

Blandmum · 04/05/2007 13:34

so do we all need one of these and some of these ? or just the book?

I'm confused now!

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:35

I think I'm going to choke I'm laughing so hard!

don't forget to add naughty steps to shopping trolley, we won't need them now either!

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:36

yes MB they are crucial if this technique is to work!!!

ahundredtimes · 04/05/2007 13:37

Dwarfs frankly a distraction, but shopping trolley was definitely key part of programme. Have to wait for teach to finish lunch though (clearly long, liquid, languid lunch in staff room) to really nail this though.

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:37

although I'm not sure how the sixth formers would react to being plonked in shopping trolley every time they act up...

Blandmum · 04/05/2007 13:39

'miss I haven't done my homework'

'get into the trolly, tell the dwarfes to budge up a bit!

Blandmum · 04/05/2007 13:40

and then I say 'You must be feeling fucking stupid now!'

Is that right?

Oh realised I should have ummed a bit before telling then to get into the trolly

Blandmum · 04/05/2007 13:41

tempting as this is, I don't think the SMT will let me do it.......

climbingwalls · 04/05/2007 13:47

then you'll just have to put SMT in the trolley.

lesliephillips · 04/05/2007 13:51

LOL MB I think trolleys shoudl be standard issue on all ITT courses from now on...I feel an INSET day coming on - 2 hours of powerpoint on 'the effective use of shopping trollyes in assertive discipline'