18 day old newborn - feeling down please tell me it gets better soon !!!

[cazybaby]

Hi ladies

Looking for some advice, I have a lovely 18 day old DS ( my DD is 5 years old), I'm feeling totally overwhelmed and tearful all the time.

Feel like I have ruined my DD's life as I have no time and patience for her, as dealing with colicky new born.

Looking for some advice and guidance. Will it get better ?

Thanks

Congratulations on the birth of your baby

Please don't worry, it's a stressful time. Go easy on yourself. You havent ruined anything. It will all be fine.

Congratulations on your new arrival and sorry you're feeling down

It is normal but it could also be PND so please do talk to your health visitor or GP.

Do you have a supportive partner? What about family and friends? Don't be afraid to tell them you're struggling and need some support.

Congratulations!

Your DD will be fine but you need to take care of yourself. Do you have support (partner, family, friends)? I used to be like this at this stage despite all the support I had. Everyone used to tell us it gets better and me and DP had difficulty believing it but it does get better! Our DD because less cranky, and more independent, and the length of the feeds are gradually decreasing. But it takes time.

Congratulations on becoming a mummy again :) and yes! It is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed. You've gone from giving 100% of your attention to one child and suddenly having no time for them. Can you organize activities they can do with relatives or their friends to keep them busy? Could your hubby or your mum give you a hand with new baby so you can have a shower and dinner? Everyone feels overwhelmed at first but you all settle into a new routine, your hormones will calm down and you'll feel fab :)

It does get better, I promise. I had the same age gap between my first two and the difference in their needs was at a peak in the newborn stage. Dd2 needed me physically and dd1 needed me emotionally. It felt like their was nothing left.

Dd2 is 17 months now and it has actually been mostly lovely. So much so that we're doing it again with 9 day old dd3!

It is totally normal, I felt overwhelmed after the births of both dcs, totally remember that feeling of grief at "abandoning" dc1 when dc2 came along. It's exhausting, it's hard work. It WILL get better

Thanks ladies. Think I'm just suffering with lack of sleep and feeling like a failure with colicky newborn. Hubby is great but unfortunately he works away from home Monday to Friday. My mum has taken some time of work this week to help me out but trying to find my own groove also.

Health Visitor is back tomorrow so I'll mention my low mood. Had this is DD so was so aware of trying to stay positive this time but it's so difficult.

My DD is 8 months now and finally becoming easier. Although I have two older children i was still shocked at how hard it was to have a baby again. She wanted to be held all the time and I could not get anything done. Much easier now! You're in the most difficult part now