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Following on from Xenia saying she spends 2 hours a day with her kids..............................................

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ssd · 15/03/2007 16:15

I just want wanted to say how much I love spending time with my boys, how I adore them, how they drive me nuts sometimes and I can't wait till bedtime BUT......................

I can honestly say 2 hours only a day with them would feel like a slow death to me, that would be like torture and I can't imagine anything worse.

Not that my feelings matter a jot, just felt the need to write that down.

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ssd · 15/03/2007 16:33

no fio of course it doesn't make you or anyone else a bad mother!

probably applies to younger kids rather than older ones, what I was trying to say.

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LucyJones · 15/03/2007 16:33

agrre exactly with what Fio said

Blu · 15/03/2007 16:33

ssd - could you stop swearing and harrumping at people?
Just stating an opinion in response to your thread - and doing it directly. If you want to celebrate your fantastic lifestyle, lovely - you don't have to do it with reference to someone else's lifestyle and say that they are missing the point of having children.

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WelshBoris · 15/03/2007 16:33

So because you've been here longer gives you the right to criticise other mumsnetters parenting choices?

In fact, you started a thread about it. With Xenias name in the title.

And, not its not a celebration of your parenting skills, you're just being smugtastic.

"Oh we spend all day with our children which means we are perfect"

TwirlyN · 15/03/2007 16:33

TBH if I only had 2 hours of my time to give to my children. I wouldn't of had them. The time I spend with them now, sometimes doesn't seem long enough. I really don't want to have any regrets later in life. So, on that basis, whilst my DC are home, I am here for them. I also think a different thread title may have been a good idea here.

WelshBoris · 15/03/2007 16:34

Why do people think it's OK to criticise Xenia all the time? Just because she is searingly honest doesn't give you a right to JUDGE

Cashncarry · 15/03/2007 16:34

I can see the spirit you intended this thread to be in but do think maybe you ought to have been a little more considerate...

I can't believe you didn't anticipate that it would drag up the old SAHM/WOHM debate again

hunkermunker · 15/03/2007 16:35

Mine are two and one, ssd.

No, actually, I don't. I'd die a slow death of screaming on the inside if I spent all day every day with them. I adore them, but I can't do full-time SAHMdom.

Takes all sorts.

Shall I start a thread about how tedious I find SAHM-ing, and see if it gets anyone's backs up?

TrinityRhino · 15/03/2007 16:35

whos xenia?

TwirlyN · 15/03/2007 16:36

And i also fully understand, some women have to work.

kittylette · 15/03/2007 16:36

shes a warrior princess i think

NotanOtter · 15/03/2007 16:37

joke to lighten mood girls???

Dp who likes to laugh at Mumsnet goings on

Just said when i moaned about my plight ....

" you are like O- SAHM -a Bin Laden"

LOL

Cashncarry · 15/03/2007 16:37

"if I only had 2 hours of my time to give to my children. I wouldn't of had them"

Why do people think it's okay to make such a sweeping statement?? Even if she chose to see them once a week, it's her right to give birth to them.

FOR GOD's SAKE

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Soapbox · 15/03/2007 16:37

Twirly - some women choose to work - horror!

Ladymuck · 15/03/2007 16:38

So do loads of you HE then? I guess I'm "with" my dcs now, but they are at the bottom of the garden playing spies with their playdates and I'd be relatively unwelcome (unless I was happy to be shot at ).

If it works for you and your family, that is great, but mine are at school and have other interests/friends too - I'm happy with 2 hours a day.

And sorry - if this thread is meant to be a celebration and isn't a dig at Xenia, then it needed a different title.

WelshBoris · 15/03/2007 16:40

It's not the SAHM v WOHM debate that has rattled my cage it's the Xenia-bashing.

Am annoyed now.

charliegal · 15/03/2007 16:40

Surely you wouldn't HAVE had them?

ComeOVeneer · 15/03/2007 16:40

WB tbh she is pretty critical of SAHMs.

clarinsgirl · 15/03/2007 16:41

ssd - I thought we all had the right to a point of view on MN, I didn't realise there was a hierarchy based on how long you have been posting...

Cashncarry · 15/03/2007 16:41

Welshboris - it's the general judging that annoys me and I'm not even an oldie

Judge judge judge - fark off the lot of you

Pamina · 15/03/2007 16:42

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Glassofwine · 15/03/2007 16:42

I am a SAHM and think Xenia talks a lot of truth - it may be unpalateable, but she does often hit the nail on the head. She may be a bit perscriptive, but hey my feeling is that the children will be happy if the parents are.

clarinsgirl · 15/03/2007 16:42

Quite agree Pamina, I'm off

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ssd · 15/03/2007 16:42

OK APOLOGIES FOR THIS THREAD, THE TITLE, THE SMUGNESS AND THE HUFFINESS!!

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persephonesnape · 15/03/2007 16:43

the xenia-ing aside ( yes, i thought it unfair too) there is a reasonable deabte within this thread (somewhere) that is more about quality of life - work life balance, decent wages for women who have to work so tehy may be able to consdier going part-time and then be able to spend longer with their children if thats what they want to do it's obviously not as absolute as working vs not working at all, but i just feel single mothers can't win - if they work long hours to provide for their children they're desensitised harrididans and if they don't work then they're a drain on the welfare state and wholly responsible for gun crime. this thread should be about a sensible middle ground rather than a tired old dull SAHM Vs WOHM hauling over hot coals.

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