So my DD is having her first birthday party with her preschool friends nx Sunday. We sent out the invites on 22nd Feb we have had a very slow stream of replies. I put the rsvp date as 1st March as I really wanted an idea of how many I was looking at. Now down to less than a week and still waiting on 12 rsvps my daughter attends after school care so the parents I am waiting on I either dont see as their child finishes at 3.30 or I always miss them when I pick up. I was going to write a little note and ask preschool to put them in their bags/folders but how can I word it with out sounding peed off with them/pushy/rude? As 12 is a lot to cater for on the chance they turn up or not to cater for incase they don't. 1 child has been talking to my DD about her party but her Mum hasnt replied and they are 3yrs old so dont want to take everything said as set in stone.