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Just been told to go away by a new mother!!!

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VoluptuaGoodshag · 19/02/2007 14:16

Was in the supermarket and she had a lovely wee new born in a baby sling tucked in her coat. I was with my 2 year old in his buggy at the deli counter and she was stood beside me. I paused to look and smile and she muttered "go away" under her breath and pushed passed me! I wasn't encroaching in her personal space I don't think but I feel quite sad. Each to their own I guess

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MamaG · 19/02/2007 14:16

oh poor woman, I think it sounds like she's having a rough time - poor you as well!

flutterbee · 19/02/2007 14:17

Oh well, she was probably having a bad day. We all have them.

ComeOVeneer · 19/02/2007 14:19

Poor you, although I can remember walking around the supermarket and people seeming to think dd and ds were some kind of public property to be cooed over, combined with sleep deprivation, I can remember it really peeing me off.

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MrsBadger · 19/02/2007 14:19

Maybe she'd just escaped from a houseful of horrible in-laws and the trip was the one time that no-one's trying to grab the baby off her.

Not especially polite but completely understandable IMO...

brimfull · 19/02/2007 14:20

shockingly rude imo,but yes probably she's having a shite day.

WigWamBam · 19/02/2007 14:22

There have been plenty of posts on MN where people get annoyed by other people cooing over or gawping at their babies - and it always seems to be that on the days when one person does it, a dozen people do it. Not everyone wants to feel that they're always being looked at, particularly when all you're doing is trying to buy a few slices of salami!

Those first few weeks are horrible as well - she's probably having a rough time with sleepless nights and a crying baby.

CurlyN · 19/02/2007 14:24

yep def bad day, I remember DS 2 months mop of bright red hair, in Spain, they used to go mad over him, and I'd be thinking, Me, me, me, me, me tell me i love beautiful too, instead of getting that little smile. But still think it was rude of her IMO.

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VoluptuaGoodshag · 19/02/2007 14:24

Yup! Been there with the sleepless nights and exhaustion so I understand and I don't feel angry towards her. Though at times like this I wished I lived in Italy or somewhere. I know everyone is different but I loved folk cooing over mine when they were babies (and even now) and I'm not a fussy, "aren't my kids the best" sort of mum.

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compo · 19/02/2007 14:25

I imagine she really really didn't think you would have heard her and if she knew you did I bet she was mortified

sandyballs · 19/02/2007 14:28

Understandable in a way, I think we forget how hard those early days can be, quite a shock to the system too, with your first one.

I remember being very rude to people some days - I was forever being stopped when I was out with my twins and I just got sick of it, answering the same questions , seems awful now.

hippmummy · 19/02/2007 14:29

Unless she was seriously depressed I don't think there was any excuse for such rudeness - especially the push

However stressed/tired you feel or if you are having bad day, having someone smile at your baby doesn't warrant such hostility.

She could have just walked away and pretended not to notice you.

If she is depressed though, poor woman. How for her.

pooka · 19/02/2007 14:33

I used to love people cooing over mine - having been up all night feeding, still bleeding, feeling like I was going to die from stress/exhaustion, I actually found the positive comments sort of vindicated the decision to have a baby. God knows having struggled for ages to get out, having had no sleep, and leaking milk, I needed something to make me feel like they were lovely.

FioFio · 19/02/2007 14:35

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MiaWallace · 19/02/2007 14:40

I loved it when anyone gave dd any attention, it made me feel very proud.

It was very overwhelming on holiday in Italy though. Dd was only 3 months old and I was getting constantly stopped. Surprisingly the majority of the time by men, who loved to tell me how beautiful she was.

Think the woman's behaviour in the shop was uncalled for, but we all have our off days

WanderingTrolley · 19/02/2007 14:48

It was her pfb.

She was probably thinking, Christ! someone eles I have to end up feeling sorry for because their child isn't nearly as beautiful as mine!

Hence the sling, she was scared you would try to switch your two year old for her tiny wee thing.

anniemac · 19/02/2007 14:49

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pooka · 19/02/2007 14:52

Exactly Anniemac! There's something about a newborn that elicits a positive response.I wasn't remotely into babies before I had mine (knew I wanted mine but not really interested in others). But now I've had ds and dd I always find myself smiling when I see a young baby.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 19/02/2007 14:53

I think she was rude.

CAMy · 19/02/2007 14:55

Most people love it when strangers notice their little baby, I know I did.

But there's always going to be one or two with an attitude problem

I feel sorry for the baby

FluffyMummy123 · 19/02/2007 14:55

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piglit · 19/02/2007 14:57

Give her a break. Being a new mum is a really shitty time for a lot of people.

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piglit · 19/02/2007 14:59

She was probably really struggling just to get through the day. Perhaps she was worried that if she had to make conversation she'd burst into floods of tears. Who knows?

OrmIrian · 19/02/2007 14:59

Horrible woman ! She may have had a hard time but all the OP was doing was admiring her baby. If the baby becomes the centre of your world doesn't it make it nicer if other people admire him/her too? I loved it when people did that and I really really don't understand why anyone would object.

Anyway I don't think rudeness is exusable >

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