Just been told to go away by a new mother!!!

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

Was in the supermarket and she had a lovely wee new born in a baby sling tucked in her coat. I was with my 2 year old in his buggy at the deli counter and she was stood beside me. I paused to look and smile and she muttered "go away" under her breath and pushed passed me! I wasn't encroaching in her personal space I don't think but I feel quite sad. Each to their own I guess

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

ROFL hunker.

[Kif]

I read an article once about a woman with an extreme form of pnd called puerpal psychosis. She became severly paranoid, genuinely believing that her husband was part of the mafia, wanted to take her baby away, and had hired a hitman to kill her to achieve it.

Not that funny really, if that might have been her problem.

[dejags]

rude rude RUDE

I had PND - badly. I was never rude to anybody who took the time out of their day to comment on my baby.

What is this world coming to?

[paulaplumpbottom]

Its really sad when you can't even admire a new born. I know some people can be pushy but it certainly doesn't sound like you were.

[Greensleeves]

She may have been just on the point of tears, though, she might have been in that crisis phase of PND where you feel as though you have died inside but you are still plucking up courage to ask for help/go to the doctor. She may never have spoken to anyone like that before.

It's pointless to judge in this situation IMO. Just forget about it and move on.

[tortoiseSHELL]

I always smile at newborns, can't help it. I wonder if she was desperately trying to get her shopping done, and couldn't get round the supermarket because people kept stopping her to smile at the baby and have 'that' conversation that I remember so well from when ds1 was a baby (see below) - it used to take me hours to do the shopping - maybe she was in a hurry and had already been detained lots...

'Aren't you lovely? (ignoring mother) - what a lovely boy/girl (delete as appropriate). Hellooooo little one, have you got a smile? Oh what tickly little feet'.

Finally deigns to acknowledge existence of mother.

'How old is he?' '(mutters)2 and a half weeks'
'You're doing well to be out aren't you. Is he good? Keeping you up at night much? Are you feeding him yourself? Bye bye baby, are you going to wave, bye bye!!!'

[DetentionGrrrl]

poor her. perhaps she is a rude cow, but more likely she's tired / self conscious etc and didn't want someone 'in her space'. I've always loved people cooing over DS, but then i coped very well with being a new mother- not everyone does.

[kks]

Obviously most of you have forgotten what its like to be a new mum

[franca70]

No I haven't and I was feeling so alone that anyone smiling at me at the supermarket would have made my day

[franca70]

sorry smiling at my baby

[kks]

Just think back. You just gave birth, your sleep deprived, if your a new mum you don't know what your doing, your dreading the babys gonna start crying in public or may wake up and want a fed right in the middle of the supermarket. You have had non stop visitors from people who wanna see the new baby and just when you wanna kill someone you get strangers coming up to you as well wanting to look at the baby.

[Aloha]

Horrid rude woman. Sorry you had to bump into her Voluptua (your name is insane btw). It would have quite upset me to have been pushed and hissed at by a loon.

[Aloha]

I feel like killing people several times a day. I do not consider it gives me carte blanche to start hissing 'go away' at people like a nutter and pushing them.

[pooka]

I'm with Franca - having had zero sleep and feeling like I'd never sit down again, while simulatenously either sobbing or being on the verge of sobbing, I actually found the validation of lovely people cooing over my baby rather uplifting.

[franca70]

kks, I swear, I didn't feel like that at all. I loved having visitors I didn't mind at all if ladies cooed over baby. Moreover, I can't possibly be rude to someone who's actually being nice by forgetting for one second about her/his problem and smiling at a baby. However I see what greensleeves say and she might just have been on a very critic phase of pnd, which I didn't have and therefore can't possibly judge.

[eidsvold]

better to have some one cooing over your little one than someone saying - 'errr yuk!! what is that!!' at the top of their voice and pointing at her ng tube in the middle of tescos.

Think that would have justified grounds of go away and pushing past BUT i just smiled as if I had not heard her and went on my way. No i did not have pnd but a babe who could have gone into cardiac failure who had an apnoea monitor on under her clothes, who was facing open heart surgery any day, needed to be away fromothers as risk of infection was high and I was still recovering from an emergency c-section with no family around to help me.

A simple - even forced smile and moving on would have been sufficient rather than hissing and pushing past someone.

[kks]

I do agree that you shouldn't be rude and just say go away but i wouldn't dream of going up to stranger in a supermarket and start commenting on their baby. I think there is a time and a place. If its in a park or something and everyones sitting round then yeah maybe i would say something. But i think its rude to go up to someone who looks harrasted with a new baby. Then you get the stupid comments like aint he/she big or small etc. When i was pregnant i used to get strangers coming up to me and touching my bump too which used to really annoy me, and its always women who do it.