Just been told to go away by a new mother!!!

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

Was in the supermarket and she had a lovely wee new born in a baby sling tucked in her coat. I was with my 2 year old in his buggy at the deli counter and she was stood beside me. I paused to look and smile and she muttered "go away" under her breath and pushed passed me! I wasn't encroaching in her personal space I don't think but I feel quite sad. Each to their own I guess

[pooka]

Yes - was really shitty time for me too, but that's why I actually found the appreciative looks and so on really soothing. Made me feel better - that someone liked my babies even though I wasn't that keen on occasion (tired/achey/tearful and anxious kind of sums it up for me).
Even if she was the opposite, there's no excuse for rudeness IMHO.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[pooka]

lol. judge - that's what we're here for.

[piglit]

When ds1 was about 4 weeks old I used to cry every time anyone spoke to me. I used to avoid people in case they were nice to me because people being nice made me cry. I really struggled and suffered from pnd and unless you've been there you can't even begin to understand.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[pooka]

Oh yes- constantly having a catch in my voice like I was some highly-strung madwoman about to cry allthebloodytime.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[CAMy]

Can't give her a break, we don't know her, she's a mythical being..................

[Ulysees]

just be glad she isn't your next door neighbour. Poor baby

We love ya goodshag Or is that I love a good shag???

[DinosChapman]

It's curious isn't it. We all moan about the UK not being a child-friendly society, yet we are only equivocal about people actually being friendly to our small children.

[pooka]

Your DH is a very wise man. Wish I'd done that. Was too busy being just a teensy bit psychotic.

[hippmummy]

I agree with piglit that if she was suffering something like PND there is another side to the story.

But if she was just having a new mum 'shitty day' there is no excuse. She didn't even need to attempt conversation - a (forced) smile would have been enough.
And if she couldn't manage that, then say nothing and ignore.
Muttering 'go away' and pushing past is rude and unnecessary.

[piglit]

"But surely if you are that emotional its best just to stay indoors?"

What? So people with pnd can't leave the house?

The first step for many people in getting over or just coming to terms with pnd is to try to get on with life. I would have gone stir crazy if I'd had to stay in doors just in case I became emotional. Sheesh.

[pooka]

But OP was talking about a brand new baby - it's not like anyone is suggesting one should be confined to barracks until you've fully recovered. But that if you go out with a tiny baby you should expect people to coo.

[CAMy]

Piglit, try not to relate to the titular woman (as it were) no=one knows why she was pissed off, its only a thread

[CAMy]

Maybe it wasn't her kid, maybe she was the kid's nanny or au pair?

[piglit]

Exactly. You're right. No one knows why she was pissed off.

[Ulysees]

CAMy that's scary

[FluffyMummy123]

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[piglit]

I guess I just have to accept I'm never going to get the hang of this judging thing.