What are your ground rules?

[TickledOnion]

I admit I have become increasingly soft on my DD's (4 and 7). I seem to spend my life running around after them. So I am going to implement some ground rules.

No more shouting to get my attention. If you want me come and find me.
Get your own drink if you are thirsty. (They are not allowed to help themselves to food so I'll still get snacks if they can be bothered to come and find me.)

What else can I do? What are your ground rules if you have similar aged children?

Dd (4)
Get yourself dressed and undressed. I will help but you have to at least try first.

Put your shoes away, dirty clothes in the laundry basket. Coat hung up.

Take plate put and scrape and put in sink after each meal.

Yy to not shouting for me through the house.

Please and thank you.

Make a decent attempt at meals and new items on the plate.

DS (just turned 2)

Dirty clothes in the basket.

Shoes away.

Please and thank you.

Come find me no shouting.

Scrape plate and put in the sink after each meal.

Don't turn me into my mother.

I am currently trying to implement some ground rules too. I am trying to get my four year old to

put her shoes and coat underneath the stairs when we enter the house.

Put her on her own pjs at night

Help tidy her playroom in the evening

Put her dirty clothes in the laundry basket

Eat properly at the table - no slouching/minimise food falls etc

Wash her hands after using the bathroom without being told to.

Get what she wants from her room herself.

Not interrupt me when I'm speaking in the phone. To be fair she has stopped doing this.

Put her fruit peels/skin in the kitchen bin when finished.

It is a long road and it probably sounds silly to people reading my post but she is a girl who literally drops things wherever she takes them off. I should have done some of it before but I think I failed to realise she moved from the baby toddler stage while I continued to do everything.