HV told me to stop cuddling baby to sleep/feel fed up

[Sun1983]

little boy is 7.5 month. HV asked how I put him to sleep. Explained I cuddle him in he has to have my hair to play with (Iv tried to discourage this and gave him "mr blanky" as a comfort so he had something when I'm not there but now he has to have both!) she said I'm stopping him from learning that he has to fall asleep on his own instead of needing me. It's not like he doesn't sleep through, Apart from the dummy falling out and his "leg banging" . She also said I should be thinking about putting him in his own room and that I'm trying to keep him a baby.
Tbh I've never been right since, Iv felt on a bit of a downer. I am now putting him down awake watching him on the monitor pulls at my heart strings seeing him looking to the side through the cot bars for me! Obv it's taking him ages to settle. And the thought of him being on his own when we put him in his own room and now seeing that he's looking for me well I'm dreading it. I've thought about me getting an air bed and going in with him so it's like one step at a time? But then I think me and my bf are just going to drift further apart seeing as we're sleeping in separate rooms? I'm fed up of thinking about it. Thing is bf snores too so he probs does disturb little boy during the night and him us with his leg banging.

[datingbarb]

My friends 8 year old ds still will only fall asleep on the sofa playing with her hair then get carried to bed, pain in the arse now as she works until 10pm 5 nights a week.

I'm all for self settling