DNA tests for father only

[brokenhearteddad]

Hi all
I am about to become a dad for the first time and sadly mum doesn't want to be with me anymore it's a long story but she has generally shit on from a great height. Been dumped numerous times because she's scared of commitment etc and she has cheated on me in the past (once). It sad because she is the love of my life and never done anything bad towards her but something in her wants to treat me like shit. Anyway getting back to matter at hand I'm 99% certain baby is mine but I have a tiny doubt only because of history that baby may not be. My question can I get DNA test without mums knowledge or approval as I'm reading the web and getting differences in opinion as to if I can or not
Personally I'd like to purchase a kit and send it off without her knowing more for my own peace of mind
Thanks

I'd do it. I'd go for the DNA test.

I agree with Jen about the appointments.

Some people find scans etc quite stressful (I do) and if there was something wrong then I absolutely wouldn't want someone in that appointment with me who wasn't there to support me, and an ex would be very unlikely to fulfil that role.

As much as scans are lovely to see the baby etc, there is a lot more to them than that and they are quite medical. They also are checking over your body too and that's why it's not appropriate for someone like an ex to be there.

If I was in that situation, at most I'd let my ex wait outside and if everything was OK then let him come in at the end to see the baby.