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I am an awful mother

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:17

I am feeling awful because I know I am a pathetic excuse of a mother.
I don't want to be as awful as I am, but I am trying hard to keep on top form through very stressful situations & failing miserably.
I guess I am calling out for help on how to keep my cool & be the kind of mother I should be, regardless of whatever else is going on around me.
I don't want to cause extra stress to my children, that's my greatest fear - but I am not as patient as I should be & know I am being a terrible mother to my boys.
I just feel I cannot cope with things.

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hunkermunker · 01/02/2007 00:22

You sound like you need a break, you poor thing - I'm sure your boys think you're a great mother though - you care enough about it to be posting asking for help, which is very good.

Saturn74 · 01/02/2007 00:23

How old are your boys?

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:25

They are 7 & nearly 4

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:26

Sometimes I feel they would almost be better of without me

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Greensleeves · 01/02/2007 00:28

No, they wouldn't. We all have "shit mother" times - anyone who has never felt like this is either a liar or a robot.

Has something in particular upset you?

Saturn74 · 01/02/2007 00:28

Ah, quite young, and I'm guessing very full of energy?
I have two boys who need LOTS of exercise to stop them bouncing off the ceiling.
They are loud and boisterous and very loving - but can be SOOOO tiring sometimes.
Do you get any time to yourself?

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:29

There is lots going on in my life atm, but I should be able to be a good mum to my boys & I am not!

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:30

Very little time to myself

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wrinklytum · 01/02/2007 00:30

Why do you feel you are a crap mum?

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:31

Because I shout & lose the plot, when realy I shouldn't.

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hunkermunker · 01/02/2007 00:33

It's bloody hard work, mothering. Can you get more time to yourself? Do you have anyone who will have them for you at all?

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:33

I am just not in control. I sometimes can be an ok mum, but most of the time I can't

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hunkermunker · 01/02/2007 00:36

Are you getting enough sleep?

What do you do when they're at school?

DimpledThighs · 01/02/2007 00:38

we all have times when we tell ourselves we are crapola.

It is a shit time of year - all grey and cold. My whole house is miserable and jumpy and edgy. It will all be better in a few weeks.

Get yourself through the next few days and stop telling yourself how crap you are.

ghosty · 01/02/2007 00:38

The fact you are on here talking about this means you absolutely are NOT an awful mum ...
Do you have much support at home?

wrinklytum · 01/02/2007 00:40

No one is a perfect parent.We all have bad days.You cannot be a "perfect mum" 24/7.Don't be so hard on yourself.The perfect mum does not exist!!!Hugs Wrinkly.

myturn · 01/02/2007 00:42

The reason you are beating yourself up is because you ARE a good mother. Bad parents couldn't give a stuff about how they drag their children up.

We ALL have bad days/weeks/months. You are not alone and you are most definately a pathetic excuse of a mother. You wouldn't be here if you were.

myturn · 01/02/2007 00:43

I meant you are definitely NOT a pathetic excuse for a mother

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myturn · 01/02/2007 00:49

I know, I am a shameful excuse for an old time MNer...

I blame it on the time of night though

And the 'Summer Cup' booze (does anyone else in the world actually drink this?)

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 00:51

I work in the day...with children!
Don't get a huge amount of support, but know I am shouting too much & being a bad mum - although I do try everyday to be the kind of mum I want to be.
Must go to bed now, as I have a heavy day tomorrow.

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myturn · 01/02/2007 00:52

Have a good sleep. Things always seem better in the morning. And I'm SURE you don't shout as loud as I do...

Good night. x

Saturn74 · 01/02/2007 00:56

Goodnight - I hope you get a good rest.

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 07:24

Meant to say thank you in my last post, do excuse my rudeness!
I am not sleeping well atm & am going through a lot of stress right now (marriage break up) & much as I try to stay with it, sometimes it's all too much & I shout when I shouldn't.
I feel I can't do anything right, including motherhood!
My eldest DS is really playing me up atm (probably due to circs) & I just am not coping well at all.

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hideousmother · 01/02/2007 07:38

Anyway, today is a new day & I'm going to try hard to be a nice mum!

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