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OMG I've just been told off at toddler group

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Lizalu · 29/01/2007 12:55

My ds and two other boys were running around and we were told to stop them. I didn't really see why but I did. Then I was having a quick chat with another mum and ds started being a bit disruptive with a toy cooker so was on my way to sort it out when one of the old biddies came and told me to control my son - to take my hands out of my pockets and go and play with him - that my ds isn't like other children - that she has been running it for 14 years and if I don't like the rules I should leave.

I am just so angry my ds wasn't behaving any differently to any other toddler.

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fortyplus · 29/01/2007 15:04

I used to run a M&T group. Clearly boisterous toddlers charging around could endanger smaller children. So we used to put the mums' chairs in a circle and the babies and 'crawlers' would play in the middle. The bigger ones would run round - pretty much unsupervised - outside the circle of chairs. The mums got time for coffee and chat, the babies were safe and the older children had fun charging about.
I'm all for playing with your children, but that isn't the reason people go to M&T groups, is it? They mix with other children, you get a break from them, and you all join in a sing song at the end.

nailpolish · 29/01/2007 15:04

i wouldnt go to a toddler group if my life depended on it

FluffyMummy123 · 29/01/2007 15:05

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Ladymuck · 29/01/2007 15:06

So who is meant to supervise the toddlers? Or do they suddenly become little darlings who don't need supervision...

I appreciate (as the mother of a couple of PITA boys myslef) that mothers of boisterous children need to get out of the house and the chance of activity that these groups provide, but we're still 100% responsible for our children, and what they are doing to others.

beckybrastraps · 29/01/2007 15:06

I'm reading this thread and all the sympathetic comments, and thinking of a recent one about how awful 'marauding toddlers' are at this kind of group.

FluffyMummy123 · 29/01/2007 15:06

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Lizalu · 29/01/2007 15:07

If she had pointed out my ds was about to put another kid in mortal danger I wouldn't be so pissed off would I? I would have just sorted it out. That wasn't the scenario.

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Twiglett · 29/01/2007 15:08

oy mad fish .. of course 2 and a half is a toddler .. what d'ya think it is?

fortyplus · 29/01/2007 15:08

Ladymuck - in a whole roomful of mothers there was always someone to intervene if behaviour got out of hand.

beckybrastraps · 29/01/2007 15:08

I still take my nearly three year old to a toddler group.

But that's because I'm one of the old biddies who run it

FluffyMummy123 · 29/01/2007 15:08

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Marina · 29/01/2007 15:09

I think what the woman said to lizalu, specifically "your ds is not like other children" was inappropriate and rude.
I have a lot of sympathy with the women who run our local group (am friends with the manager) but she would be very unhappy if one of her volunteers made that kind of remark to a parent.
Fine to remind parents to keep their children under supervision - not fine to imply there is something wrong with a child, in a public setting.

Fimbo · 29/01/2007 15:09

I used to run a m & t group and tbh it is a thankless task.

I agree with Cod, we got mothers coming in, sitting down and not glance once at their child until the end. I lost count of the times I had to sort out squabbles because the parents/child minders were to busy cackling away to notice.

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Lizalu · 29/01/2007 15:10

Ladymuck I did say I was on the way to go and sort out the problem over the cooker?? yes?? I wasn't expecting someone else to be supervising him.

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FluffyMummy123 · 29/01/2007 15:10

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princessmel · 29/01/2007 15:12

Lizalu, I don't see these friends at all now as I don't go the group. I 'd rather that than feel unwelcome at this group.

icod,

I AM not a crap mother.

I was watching him.

I do NOT spend the WHOLE time chatting.

I kept an eye on him and did time outs etc. when it was appropriate.

He was 2 fgs.

If they don't like them driving fast on the ride ons why did they have them in the hall in the first place?

colditz · 29/01/2007 15:12

two and a half is a toddler! If you're a preschooler at 3, and a toddler before that, thyen two and a half is a toddler

fortyplus · 29/01/2007 15:12

My 2 were pretty quiet and shy. They soon learned to grab a fire engine and scoot round the circle of chairs with all the others - having a whale of a time.
Anyone who doesn't like boisterous behaviour can always stay at home and teach their kid chess

Fimbo · 29/01/2007 15:12

LOL!

FluffyMummy123 · 29/01/2007 15:14

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Mercy · 29/01/2007 15:14

I take my (very nearly) 3 year old to toddler group. There's nowhere else to go really - where there are similar aged children I mean.

princessmel · 29/01/2007 15:14

Yes, thank god.

nailpolish · 29/01/2007 15:14

i usd to go to m and t groups, i lost count of how mny times i wiped another childs snotty nose

fortyplus · 29/01/2007 15:16

Cod - The worst behaved kid at my M&T group was called Connor - does that count as stoopid?

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