Straight forward yes or no answer would be most greatful- thanks

[pinkbubble]

DD is quite a tomboy and almost 3yrs ago suddenly came out with that she wanted her ears pierced for her 10th Bday. I agreed paid approx £20. Well you have never seen such a performance when after 6wks we needed to take them out. She yelled she screamed she walked around for several days with just 1 earring in before she would let me take the other one out- TBH it was a total nightmare. I told her at the time if she was going to refuse to wear earrings then the holes would close and I would refuse to let her have them redone until she was 16yrs and she could pay for them herself. All was well until a few weeks ago she is just approaching to being a teenager and she is asking to have her ears pierced- I say no but DH is saying if thats want she wants then let! What would you do?

worth tinking about I suppose!

It's not too late to sit down and have the talk with her now, surely? Even if you have said, "no, and that's that", I think it is acceptable to say "I've given the whole situation a lot more thought, and although I haven't changed my mind about it as yet, I think we need to discuss it a bit more". Again, another compromise could be to meet in the middle, like tigermoth says, or to ask her to think about it seriously for another six months before wanting them done.

It must be really difficult dealing with this situation, I do sympathise! And shoot me down in flames if you like, I don't have teens after all! Hope you manage to work it out.

Funnily enough Miaow thats exactly what I did last night. I have told her if and only if she has them done then she can only have them done at the beginning of the summer holidays. Hopefully this will give her more time to grow up a bit more, she wont miss PE at school and I can make sure that shes getting them done for all the right reasons and not just on the spur of the moment or peer pressure.

like your thinking... my dd2 kept asking for her ears to be pierced...shes 9...i refused but said when she was a teenager...everything i am not comfortable with get shifted to teenage hood! but then when we were in claire's accessories a girl was on a chiar having hers done so i told her to just go and watch...that did the trick! she doesnt want them done now

Sounds like you've reached a good conclusion for you both, pinkbubble

Honestly, I showed her this posting -not sure if its the correct thing to do but she came back this evening and asked did most of the Mums say yes or no. I told her it was split down the middle and she had to show me that she had changed since she was 10 and that she was changing into a responsible teen and that she has time to show, so hopefully the pressure is now off, she knows I dont normally back down unless theres a good reason, but she also knows Im not afraid to tell her Im in the wrong. So here goes for the next six months!!!!!

No

no

when she can pay for it herself, she'll go and do it herself, and bear whatever consequences herself