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Straight forward yes or no answer would be most greatful- thanks

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pinkbubble · 26/01/2007 21:56

DD is quite a tomboy and almost 3yrs ago suddenly came out with that she wanted her ears pierced for her 10th Bday. I agreed paid approx £20. Well you have never seen such a performance when after 6wks we needed to take them out. She yelled she screamed she walked around for several days with just 1 earring in before she would let me take the other one out- TBH it was a total nightmare. I told her at the time if she was going to refuse to wear earrings then the holes would close and I would refuse to let her have them redone until she was 16yrs and she could pay for them herself. All was well until a few weeks ago she is just approaching to being a teenager and she is asking to have her ears pierced- I say no but DH is saying if thats want she wants then let! What would you do?

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harpsichordcarrier · 26/01/2007 22:45

yes
3 years is a LONG time imo
but get some firm promises....

chocolatebirdy · 26/01/2007 22:51

No

pinkbubble · 26/01/2007 22:52

Trouble is the memories of all the pain are still very clear to me, Im surprised they arent to her(at the time she agreed to wait until she was 16yrs- maybe out of relief!!- maybe she has forgotten her pain, maybe she needs reminding of it!!)

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mears · 26/01/2007 22:52

Yes I would let her - there is a great difference between 10 yrs and 13 yrs. I'd make her save up and pay for it herself though.

kittylette · 26/01/2007 22:53

hi,

no i dont have daughters, just 2 very young sons

but im only 22 myself and still feel like a teen sometimes, lol

i think ill be very acceping of things like this as my sons grow, i just dont feel like its a big deal iykim

as long as my kids are happy, healthy, doing well in school, are friends with the right people and arent doing anything they arent supposed to then they should be free to express themselves

by the time i was 18, i had my ears pierced 5 times, my tongue, my bellybutton, my lip, my septum (the inbetween of my nose) the bridge of my nose (inbetween my eyes), and a genital piercing

BUT this didnt reflect my behaviour, ive NEVER smoked, never done any drigs, never been drunk, didnt have a boyfriend till i was nearly 16

i dont know if im going off track here, i usually do! - but i just think if your daughter is a good girl, and shes prepared to take responsibility or her piercings - clean them properly, find a reputable piercer ect

then theres no reason not to let her, in my opinion

of course other people may disagree, for whatever reason,

i think you have to sit down and have a talk with her and see what she has to say

isabellasmum · 26/01/2007 22:55

I would let her have them done again.

pinkbubble · 26/01/2007 22:59

kittylette thank you so much for an honest opinion. Never thought about her being "a good girl" etc etc. I cetainly will have a really good think about this, you have certainly given me food for thought. Funny isnt it you get so hung up on your original arguement sometimes you cant see the wood for the trees>

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DaisyMOO · 26/01/2007 23:55

I would let her have one done and if she proves she can take care of it properly she can have the other done later

Sorry, flippant response. I think I probably would tbh. 3 years is a long time, she's probably changed and grown up a lot since then and if she is really committed to taking care of them then i don't think it's a big enough issue to fight over. If she took them out again I wouldn't let her have them done a third time!

milge · 26/01/2007 23:56

No, you said 16, stick to it.

DimpledThighs · 27/01/2007 00:04

yes - I'm a soft touch though.

MarsLady · 27/01/2007 00:09

NO! You told her no until.... so it's no until.

wotzsaname · 27/01/2007 00:10

no

joano · 27/01/2007 00:20

Does she actually NEED your permission? i don't think there's any legal requirement with regard to piercings.

I probably wouldn't have agreed to ear piercing at 10 in the first place, but given you did & the response, I would be inclined to tell her that the decision is hers - if that's what she wants to spend her pocket money on - & if she's old enough to take that decision, she's old enough to pay for it & look after the piercings.

It's not really that big a deal in itself - good opportunity to tell her 'it's your body & you get to make decisions about your body, but you have to live with the consequences'.

(I've got a few piercings & tattoos. Would never have dreamed of asking my mum for permission! . Now 36 & hoping my two dc can be persuaded to leave all that till their teens)

cece · 27/01/2007 00:20

No if you said 16 then 16 it is, oh and it does them good to wait for things. You always appreciate it more if you have had to wait for them...

Califrau · 27/01/2007 00:24

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Emprexia · 27/01/2007 06:18

No.

What i would do is say if she still wants them done in 6 months,then do it then.. 3 years is a long time.

foxabout2pop · 27/01/2007 06:32

No - suggest you tell her to ask again when she's 12.

My Mum said no to mine, so I pierced them myself aged 12!!

foxtrot · 27/01/2007 07:44

Yes, big difference between 10 and 13 yo.

iris66 · 27/01/2007 08:40

yes - but make her save up pay for it.

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 08:43

no

nutcracker · 27/01/2007 08:45

Yes

belgo · 27/01/2007 08:45

say yes, and go with her yourself when she gets them done. If you say no, she'll only go out and get them done anyway, like I did at her age.

Freckle · 27/01/2007 08:47

Yes, but make her pay for it herself and insist she is responsible for cleaning, etc.

pussycatmomma · 27/01/2007 09:06

havent read all thread , but no.

peanutbutterkid · 27/01/2007 09:13

I would say yes but she has to pay for it, oh yes, and agree about milking her for help around the house, too.

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