8mo won't nap while stationary...help!

[MilkyMess]

My 8mo DD sleeps relatively well overnight but will only nap in the pushchair or car. This afternoon I spent another hour being screamed at whilst feeling useless, incompetent and guilty. I need help!

I've tried singing, shushing, swaying, holding upright or in bf position, pacing, pick-up-put-down and co-napping. Today the closest I got was DD asleep on me while I held her in a bf position while shushing and swaying. Three times I tried to transfer her when asleep and three times she woke instantly, screaming.

I'm at the end of my tether...she needs to be able to nap at nursery and with grandparents (when I start back at work) without the pushchair or car...what else can I do???

She will nap at nursery - we have magic ways :)

How do you do it? What is your secret? I'm desperate!

I am a nanny and use the same technique I used at nursery.

1. If lying on their back - sit quietly next to the cot, slowly stroke their face/nose downwards in a regular/even/calm technique.

1. This is slightly easier. If lying on the front apply pressure to the lower back/bottom and "rock" the bottom, apply pressure to the top of the torso if they try to sit up etc and say quiet time. After shaking the bottom and the child drifting off I replace the pressure of my hand with a soft toy and stay a couple of minutes more but then they're generally asleep. [If at nursery just continue until theyre asleep / dont use a toy]

when I say pressure its not a heavy pressure - it still allows them to move etc but just not crawl away

If I put her down she screams. I haven't tried the stroking though. I'd never heard of the bottom method, I'll try them both tomorrow!

Thanks so much for the tips!