Sharing box room with baby help:(

[Katieemilyxo]

I currently share a box room with my 9 month old son its a disaster, I live at home with my parents and two brothers who both share rooms together to, iv asked for a bigger room for us both im shouted abuse at and told if I want better then to move out im only 18 I can't just move out, and it doesnt solve my solution I had to remove his cot as he has to have it up a raditor, which is always off so its not a danger also its near a plug point, I can't change to have the bed up that wall as that side links to the exit and a bed wouldn't fit there he can get himself up he gets his fingers in the radiator I dont know what to do I have no solution and if I ask for one im just shouted abuse at and told its my problem also I have to store both mine and his stuff in there clothes everything! Which I had to buy a lift up bed , for now iv put a travel cot there,to try make it harder for him to get the plug, but doesnt solve the radiator space also I have to throw myself into my bed as I cant actually walk round it is there anyway I can find something more permanent and safer for my son I feel so stuck:( im being told a massive five year wait for anywhere else to go even in my situation sorry to drag on and on any sugguestions would be grateful

Im really not to sure why they dont want me to leave but all they do is complain,then when I ask for help to leave they avoid the question and won't answer

Thank you , some good ideas with the sheet aswell going to give it ago!

Did a quick Google search for 'box room high sleeper with cot under'.
Here's some ideas that may help.

I have a plug cover that's like a small box over the whole plug unit. Only an adult can open it to change the plug. Not dangerous like the ones sticking into the socket.

Not loving how critical and harsh people are being of a young girl trying to cope with a baby. She's 18 ffs!

Like this

Hope you're receiving some kind of maintenance from the father?

Those beds look ideal for you, hope you sort something soon, I appreciate it can't be easy. Housing aside, have you any plans for the future? I know you're not asking advice on this, just that it can help to have some focus when things get on top of you (like the bedroom/living situation)

Google image of 'internal sliding doors'

• good for freeing up more space inside the room as no door opening space reqd.

Box rooms are a bit of a theme on mnet. Truly amazing how many posters have issues with them.

When my friend had her baby very young, she and her DP and the baby shared the box room. She had brothers who shared the other room. One brother also had his wardrobe in the box room, so they didn't even have the box room to themselves.

They moved out. They couldn't afford a house of their own to start with, so moved into a caravan on a local residential static site, then saved for a deposit and moved into a rented house.

My dd2 has the tiniest room ever. She has a cabin bed and we replaced the door with a cheap folding door from Argos. It freed up a lot of space. That might help.

I really couldn't cope going up and down that high sleeper bed to the baby in the night! Might not be the most practical ofsolutions. Then again I have 13 years on you, I may have managed it when younger

When I had a box room when younger I had a wooden folding door which was helpful

Can you look up safe co sleeping and share bed with baby? That way can get rid of cot. Keep cot mattress and baby can sleep on that in a few months time on floor and you can stand mattress up out of the way in the day or slide under your bed.

You need to get a high bed so you can fit the cot under it.

Is the baby's father paying maintenance? Why aren't you living together?

No I recieve nothing from the father hes also my age and goes to college (when he does) he goes three days a week, and thank you for the idea of the high bed looks the bed solution going to look into saving up for one of those really appreciate the help x

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He needs to be working on the days he isnt in college. 3 days isnt a strenuous workload for an 18 year old. Plenty of MNers have teens who are full time in school, do extra curricular hobbies and work some evenings and saturdays too. I certainly did when i was in full time college. He has a child now, he needs to be providing.

radiator cover

socket cover

Katie have a look on local selling sites, FB etc - high sleepers usually come up quite a lot.

You do need to look into moving out sooner rather than later because if you're looking at a 5 year wait what are you going to do when your child needs a bed in your box room? You can present as homeless to the council without a letter from your parents, tell them your living situation is untenable. Or look into privately renting with Housing benefit.

He told me I kept the baby so its my responsibility , its not his as he didnt want him in the first place, so no chance there people have told him that, but he still doesnt listen and even if he did worl he would give me nothing as I get money for my son so he would keep it for himself rather just not argue about it all ,and im having to give him my money at times so he can eat as his father doesn't really suppport him im just in a terrible mess and thank you going to take a look x

Sorry my paragraphs arent making much sense my spelling is terrible when im tired x

even if he did worl he would give me nothing

WRONG!! Child maintenance option would calculate what he was to pay based on his wage. Do not let him bullshit you!

Stop giving him money immediately!! You are a lone parent looking after his child with zero support from him, you need every penny for yourself and that baby. He is not your responsibility! Nor is he his fathers! He is an adult, he has to feed himself. How dare he take money from the mother of his child?

Are you still in a relationship with this parasite?

I feel really sorry for you (that's meant in the least condescending, most sympathetic way possible)

Your parents are truly awful, I'm so shocked they haven't offered to swap rooms or something, it wouldn't even have to be mentioned in my house if that was the case.

You need to go through CSA to get money from the parasite father, you'll need all the money you can get right now x

No practical advice, just lots of sympathy and hope you can find a solution.
It won't always be like this, promise x