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[BuBu82]

Hi, we don't get on with neither side of our families (long story and don't ask). My friends all live all over the place and the ones that are close by I do not agree with their parenting. Therefore My ds is 3.5yrs and dd is 1.5yrs do not have many "friends/cousins" to play with. My ds goes to nursery and has friends there other than that it's just me and the kids whilst my oh works away. Me and the kids are eachothers best friends, I can't help but feel sorry for the kids that they're always stuck with me and don't have much friends to socialise with to develop their socialising skills. I know that they're probably a bit young to worry about this but I can't help it. Does anyone else feel like this? Or has any words of comfort please? X

They'll be fine. They'll get to school and develop friendships and as long as you do all you can to facilitate them then there will be no problem.

Stop giving yourself a hard time

LOVE this. Thank you so much. I am always hard on myself. My oh says the same as you. Me and the kids do everything together and they are so happy with it. I think it's when I see FB pics and big groups at the park etc, it makes me doubt myself.

Taking them to play groups or soft plays or even to parks will help their interaction with other children but honestly I wouldn't worry about it they'll make their proper friends when they start school and in the meantime they have each other.

Why are you falling out with everyone? Kids will learn social skill from their parents.

You don't have to agree on parenting styles to be friends!!

I think you need to decide which you want more - kids on play dates and a social circle verses biting your tongue on others choices

What is it about your friends' parenting that you dislike so much that you do not want your children to be around them?

That's not even an issue tbh. Just sometimes annoys me that I'm hands on and help everyone out with their kids plus mine and when we go on play dates, no1 helps with mine n dumps their kids with me. So I always end up feeling like I've been looking after everyone kids. Don't get me wrong, I go on play dates and do stuff with people, just sometimes feel reluctant

I can see that that would be annoying

I have NO friends here, so the kids have no friends either. My almost three year old goes to nursery for socialising, but I'm not worried, they'll make friends when they're four and in school :)