Child distributing indecent video without consent.

[triplethefun]

Not sure what topic this should be posted on. My dd's 'friend' videoed her naked getting changed for swimming and sent the recording via snapchat to 3 boys. My dd was unaware she was being recorded. We're utterly devastated. One of the boys has allegedly screenshotted the images and showed others. My dd is 11 years old, her 'friend' is 12. The school are involved but are underplaying what we feel is a very serious situation as this all happened outside school hours. The 'friends' parents are on holiday and have not been informed. Does anyone know where we can get some advice about this? Lots of info online about sexting but this is completely different!

OP please call the police....why are you hesitant?

Once its out there paedophiles will happily use the images, sod the friendship, this is beyond the capability of school support

I read this thread at lunchtime and I was thinking 'this is an every minute counts situation.' I cannot believe or understand why you haven't gone to the police. It's the only chance you have to try and stop the spread of the images. They could end up on the internet forever.

Last week my dd had to google her own name for homework. She found something about a sponsored 48 hour famine she had done in primary school, years ago. It really made me think about the whole digital footprint thing.

I would be calling the police on this the second I found out even if it was her own sister who took and distributed this image. You have to stop it spreading op, I hope that's what you are doing.

Police. Immediately, for all the reasons above, you owe this to your daughter to show what has been done to her is seriously wrong and that you are protecting her.

If a friend of yours was a rapist or paedophile would you also be reluctant to get them in trouble? This is a crime, against your daughter, why would you minimise it?

They were distributing child pornography.
A picture/video of a naked child is NOT necessarily child pornography (though may be used as such by a paedophile, for example).

However, that said, I would definitely go to the police, as whether the video was film with sexual motivation or bullying or anything, it should not have been done.

We're naturists, so I have no problem with the naked form of adults of children (eg there are many promotional photographs of family friendly naturist sites that depict children), however I will not allow my children to have their photographs taken when nude until they are old enough to consent and have control over the images (which won't be until they're 18yo...).

Poor OP, trying to do her best in a upsetting situation. It's really tough and horrible to think by this one act your dds friend has destroyed the friendship group and a settled way of being for all the children and families concerned.

I do think you're perhaps giving the wrong messages and expecting the school to both react strongly but also minimize it all as you want to too, in the hopes everything will settle down again. But it won't really settle down, your daughters privacy, trust and body autonomy has been violated and it needs to be addressed properly, beyond the knee jerk panic and wanting to close it all down quickly.

Good luck OP.

Really confused why police have not been contacted.

The only reason seems to be that you know the girl and her parents. Presumably if a pupil who was not a friend had done this then you would make it a police matter.

So then the message you are sending your daughter is that it is OK for friends to do this.

Triple - I hope that the school have taken this seriously, and that your dd OK (well, as OK as you can be, after a 'friend' does something so cruel).

this is bullying at the very least, and as many point out has the potential to get much worse.

the other kid needs to get into trouble, don't protect her. This is not a 'joke', it is a nasty thing to do and she needs the living shit scared out of her.

if the parents are as you say they will go stratospheric and deservedly so.