Child distributing indecent video without consent.

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Not sure what topic this should be posted on. My dd's 'friend' videoed her naked getting changed for swimming and sent the recording via snapchat to 3 boys. My dd was unaware she was being recorded. We're utterly devastated. One of the boys has allegedly screenshotted the images and showed others. My dd is 11 years old, her 'friend' is 12. The school are involved but are underplaying what we feel is a very serious situation as this all happened outside school hours. The 'friends' parents are on holiday and have not been informed. Does anyone know where we can get some advice about this? Lots of info online about sexting but this is completely different!

Go to the police. Now. I understand why you are reluctant but your job here is to protect your daughter and the sooner the police act the less chance there is of the images spreading further.

I'd go to the police, this is too serious not to. Everyone involved needs to get a very strong message about how totally unacceptable this is.

There are naked picture of your daughter out there, why would you not do your utmost to shut that down? Do you want her to come back after half term to hear everyone sniggering that they have seen her or *. (Sorry, not normally prudish, but feel a bit strange writing those words about a young girl...)

Do you want her to be Google- able? To be a laughing stock? Or even worse do you want men wanking off to naked images of your child?*

Copying what DSClarke said upthread, and adding the words: arse, tits, fanny, cunt, because OP, this is really, really important and I just don't think you fully appreciate the seriousness of this and what the potential effects could be for your DD.

Also I'm unsure if the school have to phone the police. There was safe guarding incident involving my niece and an older girl in her school and the school were very reluctant to push it that far.

The police are best placed to get rid of the data. It would be irresponsible not to contact them.

I think you're letting your daughter down if you don't contact the police. You need to prioritise protecting her, not worrying about the fact the other parents are friends of yours. Sorry.

I would call the police immediately as well. You need expert help getting this off the internet and stop it spreading as soon as possible. Hopefully the police would be able to confiscate all the devices this has been shared on as evidence? I would worry about the consequences for any children involved afterwards.

If it happened during school then the school needs to be involved and take responsibility. Why do the children have access to phones in changing rooms for example? And yes to police re. distribution of images. Often a pcso will visit assembly to reiterate the etiquette and law. Your poor dd, hope she is ok.

Fucking hell op are you even for real! Do you know how fast this image could be spread? If you just sit on your hands much longer this image of your daughter could be impossible to shut down. I wish I knew your DD because if I did, I'd call the fucking police myself.

If i knew there were images of a child i knew online or floating about whatsapp or whatever i would be straight onto the police. You are the child's mother and that wasnt your first thought? And you still havent? What the hell!

Blow the girl being your dd's best friend, some bloody friend she is if she thinks this behaviour is appropriate.

I wouldn't go to the police, i.e. your local station, as they don't all have specialised training.

Instead I would go to CEOP - which is the direct department that deals with any type of child exploitation. There is no way would I leave this in the hands of the school.

www.ceop.police.uk

They may not be able to get the video or trace it (have recent similar experience)

Am i right in thinking snapchat shows you your snapchat story at the end of every month so the images are stored somewhere by snapchat. They should be retrievable by police.

Also OP said some of the boys took screenshots of the images too.

Report to CEOP by going to their website.

They will contact the police for you and kickstand the school's safeguarding policy which they are bound by law to adhere to

The girl will be spoken to by trained social workers to ensure she never does something similar again

I have experience of something similar and I have nothing but praise for how it was handled once CEOP got involved.

Reluctant to go to the police!?
Way to go to support your daughter
I would not be concerned with this familys friendship.
There are naked fotos/film of your daughter on the inter and you are reluctant...
Terribly, terribly sad.
The mind truly does boggle.

What others have said about contacting CEOP - do it.

Hopefully OP is now talking to the police.

The is horrific. I'm so sad for your daughter and so angry.

Fuck friendship groups. If I were you, I'd never want to see or speak to this girl or her parents ever again. I don't care if she didn't mean to do it etc. I could never look at them again.

Contact the police as advised now. I would also be straight up at the school tomorrow and Contacting the board of governors. I would also contact the ofsted and the local council and put them on notice that if this matter was dealt with appropriately and to my total satisfaction, I would expect a place to be found at another school for my DD

OP, your DD's friend has made and distributed indecent images of a child. Your child.

I can understand if you don't want this girl to get into a lot of trouble, but what she has done is very serious indeed. She and the boys she sent it to need to be spoken to by the police. Your DD needs measures taken to have this photo removed from the internet.

Honestly, any arse covering that a school tried to do would be swept aside by CEOP.

Our school didn't even try. They were brilliant. But we as a family played our part by fully cooperating and making it completely clear that the full force of safeguarding policies were not just welcome but expected.

OP, stand up for your daughter.