probably completely OTT but first time mum and upset...

[bunny85]

Hi

My baby is 12 weeks and we had some visitors today. One of them is a smoker (I didn't know so couldn't ask him anything beforehand and also he's not my friend but my dh's). So he came in stinking of smoke and I was holding the baby. He then stroked his hand and then kissed it without obviously washing his hands or even taking off his jacket! He sat in his jacket in our living room where there are all the baby toys and blankets laying around. I just said I needed to feed the baby and took him to another room. I'm so upset right now. Should I wash my baby's hand now? Really upset and worried now... Probably completely OTT but first time mum...

It is something which gets easier, the worrying I mean, op. Well sort of. My baby is 8 months old now and I can't remember what I worried about when she was tiny like yours, because new worries take their place. But I mean, the worry that you'll break them/make them ill does abate.

It did take me a while to shake the fear that nobody except me could be trusted not to drop her, had to really bite my tongue for a bit 😳