OK so DD is 4 and a half, she is mega super strong, she can bench press, she can lift doors off of hinges, climb a climbing wall unaided and has one hell of a throw. She also has an incredible temper. DD pretty much hates Daddy, even when she has fallen over or wants something she won't let him do it. Today though I have reached the limit of what I can take. We had been out in the car, DD and DS had an argument over something which resulted in me having to hold her legs to stop her kicking DS and DH's seat, who was driving. When we stopped I had to forcibly remove her from the car as she was determined not to get out. She cried and DH had to take her. We got in, I was bringing stuff in, and DD decided she hated Daddy again and starting kicking him, he told her off, she then proceeded to grab a wooden apple toy and smashed the glass living room door. DH then shouted at her, it took over an hour before the screaming and crying stopped.
This evening she has had to be told off again, after she threw something at me for tidying up toys she wasn't playing with.
DH suffers with Bipolar disorder and although he is not dangerous around the children it does kinda make me a single parent. DD's sheer strength does not help when things kick off, and I have no idea what to do with her. I have tried the taking toys away, talking to her, sitting on a naughty spot or and putting her in her room. Usually something gets broken in the process. I feel so ashamed that I just can't seem to deal with an unruly child. I don't know what I have done wrong, but I feel that this has all gotten out of control, what can I do?