DD (4 months) just "told" me she was about to pee while nappyless on the mat! I thinks she's done this a few times but this was a first where I'm absolutely certain. She was squirming and looking worried and as soon as I put the nappy more or less on she started peeing. Thinking about it the only times she's flooded the mat in the last few months have been in the car when cold out or when DH has been changing her (once when we were both there I told him she was about to pee but he didn't believe me!)
So that implies she's got some awareness not to want to pee on the mat, and awareness that she is about to! 4 months seems early for this??
Slight concern that this must not pee when bare association will hinder eventual potty training - I know it's a long time away but would it be possible to teach her that it's ok to pee on a potty as well as in a nappy.
There's little to no prospect of getting DH on side - cloth nappies is enough of a battle - if he's in charge for any length of time she goes back into disposables