So DD1's behaviour has got really pants recently. She had a massive tantrum today in a restaurant leading to us having to leave in a hurry, which was just not on.
We have had a lot of change recently (moved country, new baby, the whole gamut) and I am now a SAHM, where she would previously been in full-time nursery. I have certainly been guilty of not paying her as much attention as I would have liked since the arrival of DD2, but DD2 is now a bit older so it is time to get back to normal.
In addition DH is around a lot more at weekends now - we previously would have both worked long hours and done a lot of 'shift' parenting individually, so we're finding that having to be consistent and united together is quite challenging!
The main issues are getting her to follow instructions e.g. don't go into the sandpit etc; and dealing with her testing us and pushing boundaries. For example, today we were on a train and she wanted to get out of her buggy onto a seat (there were no seats free) so she threw a massive tantrum. Then a man stood up to let her have his seat - it was completely mortifying.
I feel as though I need a consistent approach that both DH and I can both use and that can be implemented out and about, as we spend a lot of time out, so the naughty step won't work. She responded well to a star chart for potty training, but I want something to stop bad behaviour rather than just rewarding good behaviour as we try to do that anyway. A friend whispers 1...2... at her DD which seems to work a treat but I'm not sure what the premise is? I don't have time to trawl the parenting books / websites, so any tips?! Thanks in advance!