What to call step- grandfather?

[Sleepyhoglet]

My mum has asked that her first grandchild calls her nana. She's only a baby so not calling her anythibgb right now! We call her nana but what should we call her partner. I was thinking maybe papa followed by his 1st name.

who mentioned 'no blood ties' littlelionsmummy?

All this thread is irrelevant. He should be called whatever he wishes to be called - especially as one grandfather has died. He might not want to be called grandad or anything like that.

However, I love Stamps or Stampy :)

Sorry Sunny, then I think I must have misunderstood you. What do you mean by the statement "I think that all these pretended family relationships where a random man gets with a woman and becomes 'step dad' or 'step grandad' without even any commitment on his part, are potentially dangerous for children"?

I'm sorry your past experiences have tainted your view of blended families. My experiences, and presumably many others too, are very different. And I would be very sad/ offended if my stepdaughter didn't deem me worthy of the grandparent title after being a big and important part of her life (by her own admission btw) for so many years.

" What do you mean by the statement...."
I do not think there is anything ambiguous there is there?

Christ on a bike you're hard work Sunny.

My assumption based on the tone of your posts (but please correct me if i am wrong) is that you deem family relationships, such as the one you experienced, where there is no blood connection, to be fake (i.e. "pretend")

But you're not alone in that and when I first mentioned it, it wasn't aimed just at you because Beaufort also mentioned blood connections. I was simply putting a different perspective.

Unhidden. I meant no offence. I can understand if a step parent has "parented" the title grandad is valid. For me however, because my stepfather was not my father I found the concept of calling him "grandad name" inappropriate. My children used it a few times and I corrected them and said it should not be used because grandad x was my real father and was not. I may have been mire sensitive because my father died when the children were 1 and 4 and in my eyes ge was irreplaceable.

For me though, I feel it's factual and perhaps my view is pedantic. But then I would not call a friend of my mothers' auntie or encourage my children to address anyone other than my husband's siblings as auntie ir uncle - because they aren't. For me it is just simple and factual.

I do not think there is anything ambiguous there is there?

Well, define "pretended family relationships" and "random man". I'm failing to see how those phrases could be anything other than insulting.

I totally understand what you're saying Beaufort - thanks for taking time to explain. No offence taken!

I think hugo's point is probably valid in that there are no rules. A lot depends on type and length of relationship. Op says that stepgrandad has only been around since leaving home - but if the parental home was left a number of years ago it's conceivable that he's been around a fair while and may have regular contact with the child.

Some good posts by Little Lion here.

Beaufort - as my parents have died, I do understand your sensitivity at the idea of them somehow being "replaced" - both my parents died, so I don't have any step parents but I feel more sensitve about my in-laws since losing my own parents, than I did before...eg, I will no longer pick up a Mother's Day card from dh, as I haven't go my own Mum to buy for. I think this thread has shown though that there are so many different types of relationship that people have with the people they can call 'step parents' that there can be no 'one' answer, which is why it's particularly nice that there are lots and lots of different names for Grandparents, so it's easy to find a solution in most cases, where the relationship is a long term one and not a very new one

My grandmother died before I was born, and my grandfather remarried by the time I arrived. I have always called her by her name, which for me has the same connotations as the word "Grandma"

My step-grandchildren call me 'Grampy', same as my direct grandkids.

For my dds' step-grandmother we just use her first name as that's what she wanted. Elsewhere in the family a step-grandfather gets Grumps.