Tips from the more experienced amongst you to get 2.11 yr old to put his bloody clothes on

[Pruni]

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Make it into a game?
"I bet you can't get dressed by the time I..."

or

say you'll go out by yourself if he doesn't get dressed? (This kind of threat I know lots of people disapprove of, but it often works with my dd.)

Why do people disaprove Emkana. Is it because you can't 'follow it through'?

Yes!

btw i'm sure I shall have this problem with dd, actually I already do and she's 18mths!

Just take him out in his jim-jams. Don't worry about what others think.
He might decide he wants to be like others at toddler group for example and not be in his nightwear and will start to dress himself to avoid being different.

I say it when I want to leave the house. Not with conviction I might add and it has no effect anyway, just hope it will

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sounds familiar, ds is 2.1 and every morning he bounces around, gleefully strips off his pyjamas followed by an extended period of time shouting "no trousers, NO TROUSERS" at maximum volume.

so i need advice too

When dd had a kidney scan, they put her on a mat which had wide fabric straps that you could velcro that kept her still. perhaps you could make one? Sorry, it's no joke is it especially if you have to be out at a certain time.

ds is the same sometimes. i just give up, make myself a cup of tea and ignore him until he gets so bored he puts his own clothes on and waits by the door. can take a while though!

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I find counting works with lots of things i'll ask my dd (3) to do things about 5 times then i'll go 'one, two , three bet you can't do it before I get to tweny' and she does it straight away it gets to the stage where you just have to count and not actually mention the bet etc. It's weird but it has always worked here.

My dd1 (3 1/2) is a pain to get dressed, will only do skirts, preferably pink or purple, and won't do trousers. Believe me, we have in no way encouraged this and have never said 'what would you like to wear today', we pull out some clothes and say, 'right, that's what we're wearing today'. Half an hour later, I am totally stressed out and losing my temper, I really have to count to ten. Have resorted to bribery, nice things for breakfast if you put xyz on, trip to the park, etc. Sure it's not the right way of doing things but it works (sometimes).

I remember my mum dressing my brother in the school playground one day when he was about 5, he was totally embarrassed and it got easier after that. You have my sympathies!

omg

he's not yet three

dress him yourself?

sorry

do you mean he wont dress himself?

or that he wont even let you dress him - if so thats a PITA, shut him in his room

I have to allow an extra 20 mins or so before doing anything so we can argue, I can leave her to sulk, and then she tends to co-operate slightly more

Or we have brute force with kicking and screaming

We spend a lot of days at home naked.... (her, not me )

enid are you a leetle bit cross today?

maybe try and get him dressed AS SOON as he wakes up - in the hope that he will be so sleepy he won't notice? Perhaps do it without referring to it while keeping up a light and happy sounding conversation about all the lovely things he could be eating for breakfast? ("hmmm, maybe you could have shreddies? porridge with golden syrup? or would you prefer maple syrup?") I often find that inane conversations about completely different subjects distract them sufficiently from the job in hand for them not to notice what is happening until it is almost done...

well anything is worth a go, it is V FRUSTRATING, I know!

I wasnt cross until I came on mumsnet

I have to say that if DD won't get dressed (with out without me) I DO IT ANYWAY...

I am much stronger than she is....

I don't mean hurt her, but I AM IN CHARGE... well in my head...

I certainly start of making her, then turn it into a game somehow... Or by distrating her with music etc as I am doing it....

I am the adult here, and she is only 2.10, she is not going to make me late everyday...

I am all talk by the way in most things, but getting dressed is something you CAN be in charge of....

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This brings back memories of ds, when he was smaller he had a phase of always wanting his clothes off, he used to come in from kindergarden and strip off, at weekends he stayed in his undies all day even when it was cold. Now he is 8 and he often sits in just his vest and jogging trousers, refuses to sleep in pyjamas too, he sleeps in undies. I never got stressed about it really , I just flung clothes on him if we went out. His sister is the total opposite, she is wrapped up in as many clothes as she can get on her back and 2 pairs of socks are normal. Even in summer she has socks on in bed.
I would just ignore him, it is all part of the unique personality our dc have been blessed with!

Fair point Pruni, maybe my DD is easier to forceable dress.. I didn't mean to sound patrionishing....

Although I am happy to hold her still whilst I dress her if needed.. She tends to stop once she realises that I won't give in and she will get dressed with our without her coperation...

I am fairly laid back about most things, we have all time in the world on some days to go at her pace, but just sometimes I want her to know that she has to do whatever now....

You will need to find something that works for you, as I think you are giving him too much power by waiting until he is happy to get dressed.. sorry if this offends..

Need to add, the key for me is not to shout etc or show how cross I am if I am forcing her to dress... I agree is forceably holding down and shouting etc DD would be scared.. but as long as I stay calm and do it she will calm down....

bloody hell, pruni, have you kidnapped my ds or something?

no advice. Its very frustrating.

Um

Knitting calms me down, I carry a small bag of knitting with me at all times and when ds is being particulary..unique...I sit myself down and do a few rows of a nautie or suchlike.

I'm sorry, thats the absolute best I have to offer.