Tips from the more experienced amongst you to get 2.11 yr old to put his bloody clothes on

[Pruni]

Message withdrawn

Message withdrawn

When DH is getting DS ready to go to my mums and DS decides he wants to play a bit, DH tells him it's a race. DS then shouts 'I'm going to be the winner', DH tells him won't. DS then chucks his clothes on and does the happy dance while DH gets dressed.

Message withdrawn

Message withdrawn

OMG pruni that is seriuos

maybe use circulars? harder to pull on?

seriously pruni, i do know where you're coming from, am being kind of serious in that have you tried just chilling and not showing him that it affects you? Do you have to go out, or get him dressed?

Today, ds took over an hour to get dressed. So we missed soft play. He was warned repeately that we would miss soft play if he didn't stop faffing. And he didn't. So he missed it. And i knitted half a hat.

daft suggestion coming up.

have you tried the "look at this sock, where does this go isit a hat? is it a jumper is it a nose warmer etc until chil says no mummy exasperated tone it's a sock. sock then eats with sound effect onto the foot. repeat for all clothing.

yes boring but changes the mood and generally works for us anyway.

Hey Pruni...

My ploy for last few months has been to dress dd (2.11) after breakfast in front of her 20 minutes of dvd/cbeebies. Keeping up a running commentary about whatever is on the screen - cowardly, but handy when we have to rush to get to pre-school.

Other times, with her, games do work - not competitive ones (not interested) but imagination ones: this morning, she was a baby tiger at Tiger School (?!) and I was the teacher, her Cat (stuffed) was another pupil and they got dressed, peed, brushed their hair and ate a snack in way my non-tiger dd never does

I suspect the only real winning ploy is to care less than they do - but that is probably impossible!

i dont do the faarkign game thign
that drives me buts
i sout really loudly( always hleps) that he can do it himslef then and trhow the clohtes on the floor
a dn walk out

Ah Cod...that way takes about three hours with dd (mind you, she can't dress herself yet apart from socks and pants). And she can shout louder (pregnant, no breath)

I had this a while back and basically the second he got out of bed would remove his rank nappy and get him dressed BEFORE going out of his room.

Hunger/thirst usually made him get dressed and to solve breakfast down the top front - popped his apron on him, et voila, one dressed child, and no spills down the top!!!

Cue smugness, sadly this was after trying many different ways to solve problem. It works a treat now, as SAHM I had no real time constraints but he is now 3 1/2 and at preschool so have to be out the house at certain time and I refuse to be late!!!

Message withdrawn

Pruni, threatened my dd1 so many times with the put your clothes on or else I will take you to playschool in your PJs.
So I did!

(Thru the utter shame of it, she got dressed in the car when we arrived)
That was 7yrs ago and she still talks about it today!

Must add that as she is, by character, a Naturist, a compromise was that she could be naked at home!!

Pruni, I think in this situation I would just go with it and think well sod it

if he wants to go out naked he can do

then when he asks for clothes, dress him there and then, even if it is in the shop. He may think it is a lovely game but, really, what have you lost? What are you achieving at the moment? What will it matter in 20 years time if you went through a few weeks of getting him dressed on the street?

I know it is easy for me to say. I don't think you are doing anything wrong, but I don't think you can win this one by force as you have realised yourself. Doing what he wants is not letting him win, or giving in - you are just being flexible and modelling consideration for other people's wishes, all very good skills for a child to see demonstrated

For me, it is getting dd 3 dressed and out of the house for nursery by 8 am every morning.

Give her warnings 5-10 mins before that she needs to get into her clothes - she will flatly refuse.

Ask her to hold onto my shoulder so I can get her into her knickers - refuse. Dd struggles to get out of knickers.

Me manhandle her into as much of her clothing as possible - she wrestles them off as soon as I get them on.

Me throws clothes on the floor and walk off (you need to give yourself time for flounces). Dd cries and comes looking for me - Pruni, he said he wants to be your friend. Can you show you are angry with him? Anyway, in dd's case, I repeat for as long as necessary until she relents.

This is the long version of getting dd dressed.

The short version is to get her to sleep in the clothes she goes to nursery in the next day. But then getting into bed clothes can some times be another battle grrrrrrrr.

Or go out fully or partially in jarmies. Or in costume. Or naked. lol

Yes thats an idea.. what about a fancy costume?
If he goes around for 6months dressed as spiderman thats ok !

What about trying "no your not allowed to get dressed" in the morning most toddlers want to do the opposite of what you want, so this my work.

Pruni, I don't like my kids to play these sort of power games with me. You seem like a really kind and caring mother but atm someone smaller is in charge.
Take back the reins, that's my advice.
He does what you say, full stop, you're his mother. No room for negotiation when you say something goes , it goes. As long as he feels he can get away with it , it will carry on.
I know this goes against most of the thinking of other on this thread and I'll probably get shot down for it, but kids should do what they are told.

Message withdrawn

spinningwheelkitty, totally agree but easier said than done dont you think?

Message withdrawn

Bribery ?! (Imo always works)

Message withdrawn