non existent social life for me and almost no change for DH after having a baby

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hi all. . i am very frustrated today. Sorry for the long post. i have realised that my very limited social life has reduced to almost no social life after having a baby while i feel it hasnt had a major impact on hubby's... I am not from UK and though i have lived here for 4-5 years my social life is still restricted to mostly friends at work and few outside. i know it sounds pathetic. . But after having a baby i usually wfh which has further reduced my chances to go out. i was supposed to go out on office drinks today which i had told DH but still things came up n i had to give up my chance of going out to take care of ds. Why always me? ?

This is something that you need to address immediately or it will just get worse.

You need to have equal time to go out. You need to explain this to DH. Make him see how unfair it is.

If he is a decent person he will understand, apologise and make sure that he steps up and allows you to go out/have some downtime.

If he can't understand this or won't agree to it then he is not a keeper unfortunately.

Yes, you need to insist on your own time. Tell your husband you are going to make another arrangement for office drinks and if he is not back to take over there will be major trouble. Plus you need time to yourself at the weekend. Can you arrange to not work from home at least some of the time? It sounds like a bit of a trap for you.

It took two of you to have the baby, it takes two of you to care for the baby. Please don't accept this OP, you have as much right to some free time as he has.