MiL just ruined co-sleeping for me

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DS2 is almost 5 mo and since birth he's never spent a full night in his Moses basket/cot as I always brining him into bed with me, usually after his second feed.
DP normally goes to spare room so leaves the bed to us, and I follow the guidelines and am pretty sure co-sleeping safely.

MiL is visiting and I just mentioned to DP that it's going to be interesting getting DS2 into his own room at 6mo considering it's basically in our bed now so it's going to be a shock...

MiL suddenly pipes up "aren't you worried you're going to squash him?!"

I mumbled something about it being safe etc but now I'm sitting here fuming.

She doesn't know anything about it, both her kids slept through at 4mo. Just feel so angry and that she's ruined it for me now. I know I shouldn't care - my baby, my choice etc - but still. Really annoyed as I KNOW she's been dying to say something about it before.

Just left a bad taste in my mouth

About your last two posts.
Don't change what is working for you, your baby and your husband because of your MIL or what some posters say.
It should be the couple's decision and what works for their baby.

Having said that, what worked best for me was to have the cot by the side of the bed and hold DS's hand or have a hand over him. Co-sleeping for me meant I slept less because every little stir would wake me up.

I'm going to ignore the mil bit but just give you some co sleeping advice.

We co sleep with dd now 6 months, and it's been wonderful. But I'm wanting to reduce that now as she is starting to sleep through, and being in the bed prevents that. So what I did was start putting her in the Moses basket or cribs for naps. Took a while but she got used to it. Then I did pick up put down at bedtime, took 3 nights to get her falling asleep in her crib.

Now, she goes down in her crib at seven and sleeps till about 11 when I dream feed her and put her back in her crib. Then she wakes up about 5 when she comes in with us and stays there until DS wakes up about half seven. Then he usually joins us and it's a big snugly morning!

Anyway it can be done, we are doing this in preparation for moving her out of our room when she out grows the crib.

We did the same with DS and he went into his own room happily at around 7 months, but was still happy to co sleep for naps for another year or so. Won't now though :(

Anyway it can be done with perseverance!

(And I was never scared either of us would squash the kids and we co sleep safely following guidelines and neither of us have ever been booted out the 'marital' bed for co sleeping reasons)