Firstly I just want to say that with my boys I am trying to bring them up to trust me, knowing that they can tell me anything and that I can keep things confidential...this comes from being a child who couldnt tell her mum anything without it being family gossip within a few days!
Anyway, my son (7) has just been telling me that he really wants a particular toy for christmas, I know full well that his dad has got him it but not the 'version' that he's after so to try and soften the blow or whatever I said "yeah but they're all good so surely any of those things would be a cool present?" he said "yeah but I'd really like this one...."
So I told him he'd just have to wait and see and personally I think they're all 'cool'...he then said "well, S** has told me that Dad has got me one, he peeked in his cupboard and saw it..."
S* is their dad's step-son (girlfriends son) and he's 9...my son has sworn me to secrecy and begged me not to tell on S*.
So, Do I do the adult thing and tell Ex that his step son has found the "christmas stash" or do I stay loyal to my son and keep his secret?