Mixed baby looks all white?

[Lily1111]

Hello

I have a mixed baby boy he is half jamacian and half white english. My ex (his dad) is very dark. When he was born (10 weeks early) he had jaundice so he looked dark but when he overcame it he started to get pale and now he is almost my color (im very pale) he also has dark blue eyes and mid brown hair (straight) my ex is now denying he is the father but for some reason refuses a dna (I don't think he wants to think hes the dad) he refuses to take the child out of embarrassment and says that he doesn't even have a big nose like him!

I haven't slept with anyone else, I'm just feeling lost and im made out to be a cheat to everyone I know. He is 3 months and aside from family no one has seen him yet as i know they will question if he is the dad when he is! Anyone else had this? This is my little one

A friend of mine is white, his partner is Jamaican/British so has fairly dark skin and their baby is blonde with blue eyes. It's happened before that mixed race babies have been all of one colour and not of the other, it's not a 'rare' thing. If you know that your partner is the father, then you have nothing to hide. It's his loss if he isn't willing to do a DNA test.

I'm indian with very brown skin, my partner is English - all 3 of my boys have pale skin, brown hair (2 have v light brown hair) and blue eyes - and look nothing like me. Your ex is being a dick. Genetics are funny things - you may find that as he gets older he gets more colour/looks more like his dad, or he may not. Whatever he is still your son and is absolutely beautiful. Enjoy life with him.

Its perfectly normal for mixed heritage babies to be anywhere on a spectrum of colour and features. It's as expected for your baby to be pale like you as it would be for him to be dark like his father.
This isn''t your problem, your issue is that your ex is a twat. Insist on the dna test and get him to pay up as well. You can't force him to be a real father to the child, but he doesn't sound like much of a loss to anyone.

Have a look at these twins, btw: www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2974869/The-twins-tell-apart-Striking-sisters-couldn-t-different-quirk-mixed-raced-parentage.html

He is gorgeous. If your ex doesn't want to be a dad to your beautiful boy he is an idiot

Your ex is an arse.

It's not uncommon for mixed race kids to have any combination of their parents genes, including some that might be there but not expressed in their parents! My son is mixed race, but was born a blue eyed blonde (and neither of his parents are either blue eyed or blonde!).

It's also quite possible that his colouring will change as he grows up. But whether it does or not, don't let your ex's ignorant nastiness prevent you from taking your gorgeous little boy out and enjoying him.

Due to genetics, sometimes two white parents can give birth to a black baby (or vice versa). This can happen when there's been a mixed race child way back in the family who has turned out more one colour than the other, and who who everyone has assumed to be white, or black (usually an illegitmate child way back), but who carries the genes for the race of the "different" parent. Genes can pop up several generations later.

Look at Prince Harry - ginger hair. Father dark hair, mother blond.

My Dc are mixed race.
You get a different mixture with each child - plus they change a lot as they grow.

All babies have small noses - the bony bridge of the nose doesn't develop until they are older. They wouldn't be able to breast feed and breathe if their noses were big. Their skin is pale because they haven't been out in the sun much yet.

My Dss are paler in the winter than in the summer - as is DH.

All were born with blue eyes and have gradually got dark brown eyes, darker hair and skin as they have got older.
Your ex sounds rather ignorant.

Both of my kids are mixed race, white/black Caribbean . One is Scandinavian white with blonde hair and blue eyes, the other has brown hair with an English rose complexion.

Your ex needs to educate himself (and stop being so rude).

Mixed heritage babies often start out fairly pale often their skin will darken over time but not always. And dark blue eyes are also normal they darken further to brown over the first few months. And babies don't have big noses -- they would (a) look ridiculous and (b) suffocate when they breastfed if they did.

Your ex is either (a) very, very ignorant, or (b) knows all of this perfectly well but is just messing with you because he doesn't want to admit to being the father (given he won't take a DNA test, I suspect the latter).

My DS looks nothing like me. Nothing at all. If I hadn't given birth to him I wouldn't know he was mine he's like a perfect clone of his dad.

My sister however, who has a different mum to me, is the image of me

Genetics are funny things

Congratulations - that is one gorgeous baby!

I agree with everything everyone else has said.

Your ex's attitude is very upsetting, and as time goes on, he will be shown up as the idiot he is.

Were you relying on him for any financial contribution? I though the CSA can demand a dna test? I would tell him that if he doesn't co-operate you will set them on him.

Is he on the birth certificate?

In any case (and not that it matters because of everything else that has been said) - I think your baby's skin is darker than a completely white babies, who themselves are paler than white adults - babies just have much thinner skin, it seems.

He's making a great case for being an ex, isn't he?

Your baby is gorgeous regardless of colour! Anyway as other posters have said, genetics are unpredictable. Look at these twins, two sets in the same family, one black one white per set! Your ex is an arse.

You have a beautiful little boy. Please stop hiding at home because your EX is an ignorant prick.

Please put "mixed race children with blue eyes" into Google and you will find plenty of examples of beautiful mixed heritage children.

Please also see this. If he refuses to take a DNA test to prove otherwise, he will be treated by the courts as though he is and will be liable for maintenance costs.
www.adviceguide.org.uk/wales/relationships_w/relationships_children_and_young_people_e/relationships_child_maintenance/relationships_child_maintenance_2012_scheme/relationships_child_maintenance_application/the_2012_child_maintenance_scheme_you_deny_youre_the_father_of_the_children.htm

hes beautiful, and your ex is a dick.

Its not particularly unusual for mixed race babies to be pale sometimes. Theyre just as likely to resemble the white parent as the black parent.

Is this the reason you split?

He is an idiot.
My brother and his wife have little girl who is much darker than the both of them. My Mum has brown skin black hair and her sister has fair skin and fair hair.

uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/blogs/icymi/the-aylmer-twins--mixed-race-sisters-defy-the-odds-165247547.html

Just seen this on yahoo.

What a cutie pie. Your partner is a fool. As a Caribbean man I find it hard to believe he has never encountered a very fair dual heritage child. It is not uncommon, especially with the Caribbean community, as most Caribbean people have at least one white ancestor. Plus as he will well know, many dual heritage and Afro-Caribbean babies do not really get their full colour until they are about 18 mths/2 years. Be proud of your beautiful son x

If I had a picture to hand I'd post a picture of my little brother. We (me and my siblings) the same mix as your son. The four of us all vary in complexion, but my youngest brother has white skin, bright blue eyes and sandy blond hair.
People can be a little when they realise his Dad is black.

This is all completely normal of course and there is no reason why your son should take after your side of the family.

Your son is beautiful and if his father isn't proud to be his Dad then he doesn't deserve him. He sounds like an arsehole who your son would do better without.

Beautiful beautiful baby. Take him out and show him off x

he looks mixed race to me - and gorgeous! your ex is dumb and also a dick. Enjoy your lovely little baby.

I have a friend who is west Indian heritage. Her husband is white from Scotland. Their son looks like his mother and their daughter looks like the father, you wouldn't know either of them were mixed race. No one is questioning who their father is.

Tell him to educate himself and pay for his son.

Your baby is gorgeous.

My sister has two mixed race dc. Recently the oldest one said to they youngest, when explaining the difference between literally and figuratively:

'For example, I'm literally black, whereas you are figuratively black.'

It's true as well!

Your ex is a dick. My DS has a black dad (mixed black and Arab) and he looks white wot straight light brown hair. It's genetics. I suspect your ex is just a dick.

Your little boy is lovely, people are just horrible. I know a lady whose mixed race son looks the image of his dad and people still questioned if he was the dad .

I have known quite a few mixed race babies and I don't think you can get a good idea of their skin tone until they are at least 9-12 months.

He is gorgeous, by the way, I could eat him up!