April Babies

[MrsDoolittle]

Well there had to be one...
Thought I might as well start it at Fennels suggestion.
You have all read enough from me how about you?

Are Dot and Fennel real? Are any of us real? On seconds thoughts, we must be. Because no one could make up all this stuff!!!!! as you can see, giving brith and holding a baby with one hand has not improved my typing

I hope they are real! It's their experience (or maybe virtual experience) That has given me the courage to put my foot down with dm We got on all right now - the boundaries have been set, you see?

sorry that wasnt the stupid question..........just musings.....

ok here goes - any one else find that their libido has just disappeared??? completely??? Coz mine has. its not tiredness, coz i'm less tired than i was in early pregnancy. Its not the stiches becasue they are healed. Dont think its some kind of hidden resetmnet at Dh coz he's been wonderful with the kids.

Dh is very understanding and isnt pressurising me. But it cant go on like this. We had a ...hmmm.... active sex life before baby was born.Yes, even a few hours before...

I know.......at my age........

oops do I need to read back on thread about your mum?

Know what you mean Mrs D . Its was Dots experince with being induced that prepared me....coz exactly the same thing happnend to me.

Now you've done it Kristina
Dh and I had a discussion about libido only recently. I was mad for it too, as you know but it has definately gone off. At first I thought it was because having just put dd down after breast feeding and I couldn't get out of the 'mummy' feeling. Dh said he found himself feeling very protective and very aware that my breasts were dd's, do to speak. Only very recently has it started coming back and I have to say it's different. I thought I had great organisms before, but now they are fantastic!!!!!! I have no idea why, but I ain't complainin'!

ah, I'd missed Lesley76's cynical approach to life! I see motherhood hasn't quashed that yet.

libido? hmm. I have none. as usual I blame the bf hormones. dp woke me last night in the middle of the night hoping for some action. I was SO not impressed. he said "but you used to love being woken for sex". he spent the rest of the night on the sofa downstairs...
with me it did come back the other times, but not this soon.

Tom is a nice name (if you are going for the traditional names).

of course Fennel is not real. the real me is quite different! much more sorted and cool

Mrs D - LOL at your organisms!!!

Fennel - do the Bf hormones affect your libido? ( I mean one's libido of course I am not asking about yours personally!!). When does the sex drive return? After weaning ? Or do you have to stop altogether?

I guess it could be that as my periods have't come back yet. not that i mind that - wouldnt care if i never had another one in my life. Cant uunderstand these woman who say it makes them feel feminine....

And what's this about cynical - who , moi?????? I am deeply wounded

Glad to hear you are more cool in RL I am younger and prettier with a flat stomach and not a hint of flab. No, seriously

Thnak you for the comment about the baby's name. The ( male) GP laughed when DD1 told him.I was most offended. I asked him what his children were called and he muttered soemthing about his wife choosing the names.

Go on.....can you guess???

Clarabelle and Christabelle

Honestly I kid you not

Thanks for the messages ref the op. Kristina - I gather it's quite common for thyroids to be affected by pregnancy - you and me both by the sound of it.
I will have help with baby and ds (21 months) but I guess it'll mean decamping to my parents for a while as I understand were I at work I would need 3-4 weeks off as you can't lift things, turn your head etc for a while and obviously unless I get help with the kids there's no way I can take it easy.

DD 18 weeks and have tried weaning as she was sleeping through the night from one month old (!) but recently has started waking for a night feed. However, she is just not that interested in food, so I won't push it.

DD has so much hair that, I kid you not, I sometimes clip it back. Like my son, she's got bright gorgeous copper coloured hair. Mine's red but nothing like as vibrant. She's even got blonde tips to her hair - boy, I'd have to pay a fortune at the hairdressers to get the same look!

Bluecow - wishing you the best for your op. Your dd sounds gorgeous. It's s shame we can't post pictures on here as I'd love to everyone's dds and ds's.

HI Kristina. Lovely to hear from you again. I think your GP was a bit cheeky laughing at Tom (why?), esp considering his dds names. I always think its very rude of people to react unfavourably to names.

I am exclusively bf ds too. He's just over 17 wks now and Fennel - I remember last week he went through an unusually fussy period too. I was beginning to think my bm was not good enough but I think he went through a growth spurt as he's calmed down again - going approx 3-4 hrs between feeds in the day. However, he's also started waking twice in the night now, so I've started to give him a little baby rice and EBM. I'm taking it slow as he's only 12.7 lbs and I don't want to fill him up on solids rather than milk at this stage.

I go through stages with bf. Sometimes I really like it and other times I find it a real hassle - especially expressing which I loathe with a passion.

copper hair with blond tips sounds lovely!

am close to giving up on the exclusive bf too, sod that idea of getting to 6 months. I am totally exhausted and she's even started waking in the night, first time since 4 weeks old. Just waiting to see if it is a temporary growth spurt thing like Metrobaby's ds. I was enjoying the bf more until the last couplde of weeks of far more frequent feeding.

The people carrier has arrived. My mum said "It looks very sensible"

Hi Lesley/Kristina - lovely to have you back!!

So you've guessed - I am Fennel!!!! No, not really - honest - and anyway, no-one could make up my bizarre life..!

We're getting a bit worried about ds's appetite - there really is no stopping him - he's on about 10 ice cubes of food per meal - about 2 bowls full of food. I can't quite believe he can put it all away, but he's never sick and just loves it. Plus he's still on all his milk - about 36 - 40 oz a day... He's not fat (Fennel can confirm??!) but is a big boy. Think I'll go back and bore the HV about it again this week - don't want an obese baby, but I'm not sure if that's even possible. We're deliberately not introducing any jars of 'afters' or rusks - I think once he tastes something sweet we've had it... I think I'm quite sensitive to the food 'issue' as I'm big myself (Fennel can definitely confirm! ).

Ho hum - I suppose it's not the worst worry to have - he's a very happy little soul, and the other night he went nearly 12 hours between feeds for the first time, so we're on the right track there.

Sex life - ha!!! We didn't even need to have sex to create ds's...!

LOL dot!

Dot - I have the oppposite problem to you. My ds is very long and skinny. His appetite (for milk so far), doesn't seem to be poor but he is so skinny compared to other babies I see around his age. It's hard not to worry and my dd was exactly the same as ds as a baby. When I brought this up with my HV she wasn't unduly worried. As for my dd, after a year she's completely changed. Her weight is average for her age, and she is the height of a 5/6 yo even though is is coming up to 4!

Metrobaby - saw your posting about your friends nephew. So sorry

hi all, thanks to hewlettsdaugter,dolbear,dot1,fennel,bluecow for you posting with regard to dd colic uumm maybe was just hunger dont really know she is a lot more settled on bottle brings wind up easier, but its working so i dont care what it was and am sticking with just bf in morn and evening and bottle rest of day, she getting a right little porker now.
In your red book you get given by health visitor are your dchildren following the growth curve?

I can confirm Dot's ds2 is not fat. quite lean I'd say. If he's not eating sweet things and not getting fat it's not a problem, I'd have thought.

about growth rates, they are all so different, and bf babies in particular often don't follow those red book curves. dd1 was a very fat baby while fully bf, always 91 centile and had big wodges of flab. now at 4 she is small and slim, about 25 centile.

metrobaby - very sorry for your friend

have found another culprit for my tiredness - been on the mini-pill a month and it's since then I've been feeling low and exhausted. so maybe it's not just the bf? am stopping the pill, after all, sex is hardly high on my agenda just now it'll be an excuse to have even less of it...

Morning Ladies! Monday morning again! Time is flying.
I understand that in the new red books now there are two growth charts - one for bf babies and one for formula. Dd was born on and is now just below the 25 centile. Infact, last time I saw HD I was surprised to learn that her dd actually weighed more - she is eight days younger and leaner. I assumed it must be because she is quite long, HD is tall and slim whereas I am shorter and rotund!!
Anyway, I had the worst night ever with dd last night. She was waking up every few hours. I would take her into bed with me and feed her but I'm obviously not producing anywhere near enough for her anymore. I still bf 6am, 2pm and 7pm but the rest is now formula and pureed fruit and veg. with baby rice. She doesn't like baby rice on it's own though - 'urghhh!'she seems to say.
I stupidly told dm this morning about my bad night and now fervently wish I hadn't. I am starving the child, I was trying to do too much by demand feeding, nobody does demand feeding only hippes!! I am now run down as a result and I can't feed her enough anymore. Personally, I feel it was more likely to be the pressure she put me under to reduce the amount of times I was bf and encourage dd to go longer between feeds. Still me whining and arguing about it now doesn't help anybody. I need to shut up actually, dh is tired of hearing it. Sorry to go on here. I can't even explain why I feel so depressed about it really. Maybe I feel I may have compromised dd? (I'm analysing again) On top of the fact that I have an underlying guilty feeling that I am putting dd into nursery too soon. I don't know..... But I do know that if I think about it too much I shall cry As IF I have anything to cry about FFS!!!!!
Rant over.

Morning Mrs Doolittle Your poor poor thing. Just ignore what anyone else says and whine, rant and cry as much as you like. Perhaps your dd was just having a blip last night? I too am very worried about putting ds into nursery in the next couple of weeks. It just seems too early to leave him somehow. Also I have to reapply for my job when I go back to work whoch is causing me major stress. If I don't get it it's like what's the point of putting him into nursery for the few weeks until I know!
Ooh, welcome back lesley/kristina

mrs D don't feel guilty. you were ill, and it happens. I think people underestimate how hard work bf is at least for many of us. I can't keep going with it much longer and I haven't been ill even.

I feel bad about dd3 starting nursery (tomorrow we go for the first time). she does seem a bit young but I can't easily postpone it (and it's partly her fault for being born 2 weeks late of course!)

Thak you Fennel and lucyjones I am venting my frustration in the Paula Radcliffe thread. I know they are winding me up but I am falling for it!!
Dd has just had a lovely bf and now she is asleep. I feel happier. I am like you fennel on the nursery front though, we start next Tuesday. Keep us posted. I hope it goes well.

Thanks for your kind words Kristina and Fennel. My friend says the whole family are devasted. Its a very sad affair

btw - I just wanted to clarify that i wasn't implying that dot's ds was fat Apologies dot if it came across this way

I took ds to be weighed today and he's put on 6oz this week so I am happy. He is on the 25th centile for his growth. In his red book he doesn't have a chart for being bf.

LucyJones, Fennel and MrsD - all your babies are starting nursery and you are going back to work. Time has flown by. I've still not returned back to work, but planning to after Xmas, so I'll have a few months to go. I am dreading it though. Let us know how your babies and yourselves get on.

mrsD - I wuldn't feel guilty either. bf is exhausting. Maybe as LucyJones says its a temporary blip or she is going through a growth spurt. Whenever ds goes through one I wonder if I am producing enough but after a couple of days it re-adjusts and we get back to our usual routine. Of course it doens't help if you have someone else trying to undermine your bf capaibilities. My MIL was always convinced when dd was born I was not producing enough. It drove me insane with worry. This time around however i solve the problem by not telling her how much ds weighs at all

Mrs D - if you still feel bad about not exclusively bf, remember you can keep going on the mixed feeding for ages, I did about 6 months of half and half with both dd1 and dd2 after the 4-5 months just bf. It suited me quite well.

am already at work (today, can't you tell by my frequent mumsnet postings
I like being at work, I also like leaving dd1 and dd2 as they're too intensive, just don't like leaving dd3. I guess I can't have it all ways.

Thanks Metrobaby.

I am not worried about dd's growth because she is absolutley gorgeous as she is, no doubt about it!! It's just me being a miserable moo