I just want to share with you how happy I was yesterday after I put ds1 in bed.
I have suffer from PND after his birth and our relationship had a very very bad start. And then yesterday,...
I put ds1 in bed, tucked him in and lower down to give him a kiss as usual except that, for the first time, he didn't push me away. He was actually happy about it and asked for a cuddle! You will probably find strange that I am so excited about this but it means that I finally I have managed to regain my son's trust! And that means a hell of lot for me.
I also, for the first time again, actually really laught with him! Again something that should be so natural but a 'premiere' for me.
So I just wanted to tell anyone here who is struggling with their DC and have a poor relationship with them that you CAN change it.
Also, don't get fouled by any quick fix. It is taking time, more than a year for me and it is hard work because YOU have to change so much. But children are also very resilent...
So if you want to change something in your relation with your DC, GO FOR IT. IF I CAN DO IT, YOU CAN TOO.