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SAHMs - do you ever think .....

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poppiesinaline · 02/10/2006 13:28

OMG I can't do this anymore I need to go out to work?!

Had enough, staying at home for the 3rd time round is driving me stir crazy. I NEED TO GET OUT!!! Fed up with constant tidying, cleaning, cooking and the whinging crying toddler

Maybe Im just having a bad day but the grass certainly looks greener on the other side at the moment! Sorry, that was a real moan moment wasn't it!?

Anyway. Have any of you seriously jacked it in and gone back to work cos you could stand it no more!!!? And ... was it better?!

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MrsScareyFish · 03/10/2006 13:10

POPPIES but oging out to work siso dull

NastyNemo666 · 03/10/2006 13:13

I feel like this sometimes...now been home nearly 3yrs and sometimes it does get to me and I am jealous of dh working..but then he is also jealous of me staying home

Flamebat · 03/10/2006 13:14

Ooh is he J&RM?

I have days like it, days when I scream to use my brain... and then it wears off and I just want to play with my babies.

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Tommy · 03/10/2006 13:18

on the odd occasion I do bur then I think "I would still have to do everything I do at the moment and go to work" which just sounds like too much faff tbh.

FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 03/10/2006 13:20

could you study?

I am doing a second degree, for this and a number of other reasons.

there is adult interaction (via tutorials) and it keeps your brain going.

PetitFilou1 · 03/10/2006 13:31

ScareyFish 'Going out to work is so dull' Have to disagree with that. I find my work really enjoyable and love that fact that what I do impacts on people nationally. I actually get recognition when something goes well too. I love my children but I need this for my sanity. That's just me though..

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poppiesinaline · 03/10/2006 13:31

Having a better day today Still felt at DH trotting off all fancy free this morning while I was up to my armpits in snot and poo

But in reality I suppose, I would still have to do all that I do now and work so maybe I am on a good deal at the moment!

I think I am in need of more me time and certainly need something to inspire me more

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Kittypickle · 03/10/2006 13:37

I have felt like this so at the beginning of the year I started a small business to give me something else to focus on apart from snot. I've been able to do it mornings and evenings at home so far, and DS has recently started 2 mornings a week at nursery which gives me a little bit more time. I think I would have cracked up without it. The idea of helping out with other people's children brings me out in a cold sweat.

PetitFilou1 · 03/10/2006 13:41

Poppies I would add that my dh is very hands on and we almost do 50/50 as regards childcare (except when I'm at home with them and he's at work obviously) And I have a cleaner. So work is feasible without me actually taking on the double burden everyone talks about. If I was going to do everything for the children plus my job, well forget that idea! If you are reasonably happy most of the time what about OU like others have suggested or an evening course or could you get to a pilates class or a book club or something?

MrsScareyFish · 03/10/2006 13:57

but you don tget to laze around reading novels and sit int eh sund nad go to the beach
ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

no on thnaks s you for ponceing about at work

Pitchounette · 03/10/2006 13:58

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poppiesinaline · 03/10/2006 14:10

mmm I used to work part-time from home when DS1 was small Great at the time but wouldnt want to do it again really - I need to GET OUT!!!! LOL

I do make and sell handcrafted cards which is keeping me busy but feel I need something more. Think I will try and get my head round it and decide what I need to do with my life! Poppies feels like it time for change

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CovenOVeneer · 03/10/2006 14:16

Where abouts in Surrey are you?

WideWebWitch · 03/10/2006 14:20

Hi poppiesinaline, yep, was a sahm for 4/5 years and am happier working, (have done since dd was 4months old, dh was a sahd for a while, now we both work ft oth) definitely. It's easier imo (I know, not true for everyone) despite the getting out of the house in the morning stress. My job is stressful at times but I wouldn't swap it for beign a sahm again I've just been in the supermarket where I saw several sahms and I didn't envy them one bit.

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PetitFilou1 · 03/10/2006 14:36

Not many beaches in London Mrs Scarey anyway I'm not the beach type, can't stay still that long

MrsScareyFish · 03/10/2006 14:39

oh dearey me
life is too short
me today

dsses tos chool
ds3 to [laygroup
me too town to do jobs
me to chiropodist ( ooh lovely)
me too playgorup
ues lunch read paper watch tv
him in garden
me tidying
us baking

then all of us ot park
tea beavers aah glass fo wine

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poppiesinaline · 03/10/2006 16:00

ah yes, but your lo is obviously at playgroup and I think that makes sooo much difference. I only have one year to go

dinosaur

CovenOVeneer Im near Epsom.

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shhhh · 03/10/2006 16:09

I have't jacked it in and tbh I hope I never do. I so love my "new job".
Yeah sure it has it's good and bad points and believe me I felt exactly like you did last week. DD was climbing the walls, wouldn't have nap's, wouldn't eat,screamed (playfully although quite irritating..!) and basically made me feel like I was on a mental ward. Hey maybe a mental ward would have been a calmer more stressless environment..!

We all have days like this and remember every doing a 9-5 job has its issues. I do remember days in "work" when I wished I could go home at 10am or shove my collegues head in the nearest door..!

Hows today gone.?

lazycow · 03/10/2006 16:13

I do so want to be a SAHM - but only once ds starts school

Twohoots · 03/10/2006 16:23

Poppies - I know where you are coming from. But my DD is only 17 mths. We go out almost every day and do something - toddlers/soft play and see other mums and toddlers but I still miss adult stimulation where I am not constantly having to have one eye/ear on what she is doing and can let my hair down a bit (and be the me again I was before I had her).

I love her to bits and I am lucky to be able to be a SAHM but would ideally like to work 2 days/wk I think. The prob is there are no jobs (was a PA/Marketing admin before) part time and I'd be working for nothing - making a loss in fact with childcare so it's a bit of a no go right now. I don't have any family around me to help either (DH works away a lot too so not much help).

incy · 03/10/2006 16:53

Have you thought about putting child(ren) into playgroup/nursery for a few sessions a week. It sounds to me that you need some much needed time for yourself - work may provide you with an escape from home but it can be equally draining and depressing and you'll end spending your week at work (working doubly hard to prove you are not a waste of space ) or at home (working hard feeling guilty for days you spend working and catching up with housework). I've never met a STAHM who is unhappy when she has at least some time for herself so she can read/go to gym/shopping etc. At the moment I am giving up PT work as I have found it exhausting and as someone has already said, life is too short. Sorry to be negative about working but personally it hasn't worked for me.

ssd · 03/10/2006 16:58

Hi!
I was a SAHM for 8 yrs and now I'm childminding since my youngest started school. I'm really so glad I stayed at home with them, I think they've really benefited. As they get older and "into" school and clubs they naturally grow away from you as time goes on, so I'm grateful for all the time spent together in the pre school years.

Can you work p/t?You sound like you need a break!

naswm · 03/10/2006 17:10

Not got time atm to read all of this poppies - but yes I feel like that often. Sorry to hear about your bad day. Hope today is a bit better. catch you on msn soon...? {{{hugs}}} Nx

Birkie · 03/10/2006 17:46

Dear Poppiesinaline,

I´m in your position too.. went back to work and it was too much for me and I jacked it in.. Now I ´m a failed SAHM and a failed returner so things even worse than at the beginning if that is possible. I think the problem is finding appropriate and interesting part time work. There doesn´t seem to be any around unfortunately.. if you find some, grab it!