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Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

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sleepinbeauty · 20/09/2006 16:32

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

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SSSandy · 20/09/2006 21:30

dh also works long hours. It's the nature of his job and if I went to work, he wouldn't in any way be able to reduce his hours - but even my dh doesn't work those kind of hours! He works from about 9am - 9pm 5x week and is often out of town, maybe 2x a week.

If I went out to work (in my field), dd would have very little parental attention at all. That's the main reason I don't work. If I took some basic part-time job, what would be the point? It's low paid and probably uninteresting. Dh is on a high tax bracket. If I worked, my take home wage would be negligable. Dd's school is from 8am - 1pm so it would be difficult to manage. She's often sick and always has been, so particularly in winter, I would need to pay someone to care for her at those times.

I would be worn out, dd would see little of dh and me, the financial rewards are non-existant. I can't see any point in doing it in our current situation TBH.

iota · 20/09/2006 21:30

certainly is in my neck of the woods puddle - that's why I'm a lazy fat ar$ed SAHM

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 21:31

Those of you who don't work - what will you do if you get divorced when you are 60 (as happened to my own mother) and your husband disappears with your lovely planned retirement and pension?

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iota · 20/09/2006 21:31

SSSandy - I'm in a similar position to you

Spidermama · 20/09/2006 21:31

Something has certainly wound her up.

A couple of weeks ago I had a really bad day and was in a horrible sad, bad mood so I came on MN and started a deliberately provocative thread about cow milk being full of pus.

For some strange reason it felt good.

CountTo10 · 20/09/2006 21:32

Sorry if I din't make it clearer Spidermama but when I said the benefits bit I was talking about people who don't have children. I was bought up on benefits at different points as part of a single parent family and its not easy by any stretch of the imagination. Sorry if I've caused any offence by not making that clearer

StrawberryMoon · 20/09/2006 21:32

spend my own pension..sell the house (my name)and bugger off to find some boy child ina hot country who wants me for 'my' money

iota · 20/09/2006 21:32

I have my own pension MP -built up in my 23 yrs of employment

Spidermama · 20/09/2006 21:33

Not at all Cto10. It was a great post. [wmile]

WideWebWitch · 20/09/2006 21:33

Mp, I do work but if I didn't (OTH) I would go to court and get half the fking pension as is, I believe, now my entitlement. No such thing as yours and mine in marriage, only joint marital assets. As Ray Parlous (rightly imo) found out.

CountTo10 · 20/09/2006 21:33

Spidermama, your post made me roar - cows milk and pus eh!!! I remember that one!!!! If I remember correctly I believe there was a bit of a errr heated discussion

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 21:34

iota, what exactly DO you do for personal fulfillment (honest question) - because you get the trophy here for Wildly Defensive SAHM

mummydear · 20/09/2006 21:34

I have my own pension too ! there is alot of 'what ifs' in life and you cannot prepare for them all.

WideWebWitch · 20/09/2006 21:34

ha ha, Ray ParlouR, not Parlous but amusing.

buktus · 20/09/2006 21:34

all of our property which will be some for retirement and flats for each of the kids are in their names for trust everything else is in my name so he can be silly and leave if he wants but that wont ever happen

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 21:35

WWW - don't believe it - there is always a way for someone to fck you over

and half a pension and half a house ain't much for most people these days

iota · 20/09/2006 21:35

I do? genuinely puzzled as I don't give a fig about what others think -I've been taking the pi$$ out of my life

StrawberryMoon · 20/09/2006 21:36

i meant to say man child ie: 20 somethings

WideWebWitch · 20/09/2006 21:36

Well, I work and haven't got a) a pension or b) a house. lots of people haven't.

SSSandy · 20/09/2006 21:36

when I went to work I did it err for the money. I didn't feel personally fulfilled by it. I was personally fulfilled by the things I did OUTSIDE of work maybe.

Was I ever personally fulfilled? Wondering about that now and getting a bit worried. Must check the fridge for some munchies...

heavenis · 20/09/2006 21:37

Buy your self some ear plugs and don't listen to the SAHM moaning.
Why do you let it bother you each to there own.

WideWebWitch · 20/09/2006 21:37

Oo err, fulfilment, is that like yer self actualisation then?

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 21:37

darlings

you all need to spend more time self-actualising

morningpaper · 20/09/2006 21:37

snort

mummydear · 20/09/2006 21:37

Wheres Sleeping Beauty gone ?

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