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why do people with "one of each" not want any more kids?

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:00

Lots of people I know say they don't want more kids because they already have one of each - why is this? Whats the thing about having one of each and not another one so the girl can have a sister or the boy a brother?

This sounds a bit mad I know but it sounds like a daft 'reason' not to have any more to me!

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Medulla · 15/09/2006 22:01

I have one of each and i certainly want more

WigWamBam · 15/09/2006 22:01

It's as valid a reason as any other, surely? If they feel their family is complete then whose business is it what their reason is?

mosschops30 · 15/09/2006 22:02

we have one of each and it really pisses me off when people say 'oh well thats it then now you've got both', as if we just have children to see if we can get one of each ffs.

I keep changing my mind but definately havent ruled out another litte one

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:02

good for you and glad to hear it...

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Blandmum · 15/09/2006 22:02

I have one of each. I only ever wanted two children, and would have stopped at two if I had had two girls or two boys.

buktus · 15/09/2006 22:03

i have always thought this but never brave enough to ask

puff · 15/09/2006 22:04

Not sure this is a universal truth

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:04

my 10.02 post was for medulla by the way, few others got in before I posted

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blossom2 · 15/09/2006 22:04

if i had one of each, i probably would not want any more, but then i'm 7th child from a family of 8... so i feel i have a valid reason for only wanting 2.

BUT i'm pg with my third, with 2 dds!!!

Twinkie1 · 15/09/2006 22:05

I have one of each and am not having anymore as DS is such hard work - wouldn't swap him for the world though!!!

hunkermunker · 15/09/2006 22:05

I have one of each - curly-haired and straight-haired.

If the straight-haired one does get curly hair, I may be tempted to see if I can have one with straight hair because otherwise I'll miss out on...er...perming it. Or something.

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:08

twinkie1 - If you are asked if you are having anymore though - do you say no because you have one of each or no because DS is such hard work?

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Mercy · 15/09/2006 22:10

I don't think it means anything particular tbh.I originally planned to only have one, decided on another. Their gender is/was irrelevant.

It's just a very pat response which means you don't have to go into detail, explain why you've stopped at 2, blah blah

So what about you chocolatekimmy?

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:12

I've got three girls, haven't ruled out having more as I seem to enjoy them more and more. Always thought I would have at least two, never really put a number on it though.

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buktus · 15/09/2006 22:16

was that aimed at me puff

gemmiegoatlegs · 15/09/2006 22:19

I have one of each. When I was preg with my second I really hoped to have another boy as growing up I had a sister with similar age gap and we did and do get on great. DH's nearest sibling is a sister and they are like acquaintances rather than real family. I do love having a daughter now I've got one. If we do have any more (never say never) it wont be for at least 4 years as I am studying, by which point it won't make a difference what we have...

puff · 15/09/2006 22:19

no buktus, responding to the OP - I haven't come across lots of people saying this.

buktus · 15/09/2006 22:19

ok puff

puff · 15/09/2006 22:20

rustybear · 15/09/2006 22:22

I have one of each, but wouldn't have had more even if DD had been a boy - I just think two's a nice number.
What did amaze me was the number of people who said "One of each - aren't you clever!" "Aren't you lucky" I could understand, but clever???

puff · 15/09/2006 22:22

BUT I have had one particular person harangue me about having a third because I might have a girl. Despite best efforts it fell on my deaf ears !

kid · 15/09/2006 22:23

I have one of each and don't intend on having anymore. The reason why is I never wanted to have an only child, but I've had 2 c-sections and it took a long time to recover from the last one, I really couldn't face it all again. Plus DS is now in full time school and I'm back to fulltime work after a 7 year break (well worked part-time so not really a complete break)

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:28

Great, varied responses, thanks.

I think Mercy's
"It's just a very pat response which means you don't have to go into detail, explain why you've stopped at 2, blah blah"

is a good point.

My friends husband (who has one of each) says he has 2 beautiful healthy children, how lucky he is and that they are enough for him. I think the 'one of each' thing is more of just an expression people use

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buktus · 15/09/2006 22:32

i kept getting that response when i fell pregnant the third time i already had two boys and really wanted a third, but everyone was saying noooo you realyy want a girl dont you, andyou have to stand there and say noooo five thousand times and they still dont believe you

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chocolatekimmy · 15/09/2006 22:36

I'm in a way too scared to go for number 4 (bit soon at moment) because of the comments about wanting a boy. I will have a fourth if I want another child - would be surprised if it was a boy after 3 girls though, just be thankful for another lovely and healthy one.

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