Just joined bit nervous!-toddler speech delay

[Rubycat321]

Hi, I've just joined Mums net after having a bad day with my eldest son who has a speech delay. He is 3 in August and only has a handful of words. He moans a lot and points etc babbles in his own language. Gets very frustrated with everyone. I've got lots more to say but just wondered if anyone was in the same situation :( thank you in advance xxxx

QTpie

I don't know what parallel universe you're used to inhabiting, but this universe's FanjoForTheMammaries didn't post anything like you claim.

I have to agree with fanjo.

It's great that some children will catch up in their own time - that's fantastic news for them. But other children won't and would really benefit from some intervention and unfortunately there is no way of telling which group your child falls into in advance.

And I know people mean well with their Einstein/suddenly came out with complete sentences comments - but those comments made me feel like I was making a fuss about nothing and delayed me getting help for ds. So actually that was a crap outcome. Whereas there can be no harm at all in checking out a child who turns out to catch up anyway.

Good news is ds is 7 now and super chatty and doing really well - still catching up with his writing but has made giant strides.

Hmm its a bit weird to follow someone around insulting their posting style and referring to other threads.

Just sayin'

Forgive me QT, you see I just don't think that reassuring the OP that things will be ok, one way or another is actually good advice.

Quite possibly it won't be ok. And better a bit of stress now to push for early intervention is better than sticking ones fingers on ones ears and going la la la.

None of us can reassure the OP on what will happen for her ds. Because we do not know him. Some of us do have experience with language delay in small children, both of our own and in professional settings, and the only sensible advice in my personal and professional opinion, is to push and push hard right now. Budgets are being cut right left and centre, children are being failed by an over stretched, underfunded service, it would be unwise to adopt a wait and see, don't get stressed approach.

It is always better to be proactive in dealing with possible issues with children, rather than hoping things will magically turn out right.

Whoah! if you have an issue with Fanjo remember the golden rule on MN, don't drag fights or disagreements from thread to thread.

If she gets up your nose, fine. But don't start fights on someone else's thread.

QT I think you are reading something into fanjos post that simply isn't there, and going by your last post bringing over resentment from previous threads to this one. Both yours and fanjos experiences are equally valid, fanjo just has a different experience to you.

Op I hope you can get the help for your dc that they need, or that indeed they catch up of there own accord.

QTPie, you (one) cannot change or delete posts on MN.

Someptimes MNHQ delete posts (if theya re reported), but a message remains to say that they have done this, eg "Message deleted for breaking talk guidelines'

I don't know what you think you read earlier, but having skimmed the thread, it all seems as it did when I first read it.

Fanjo talked a lot of sense. She usually does.

QT love, you are beginning to sound slightly deranged.
You can have posts deleted here, but they always show up as deleted at posters request. You cannot edit posts on MN.

And it IS post stalking to bring up issues from another thread. Dems da roolz.

Hey, haven't read the whole thread, but my son was an August baby too, and at the age of 3 he babbled in his own "language" and didnt know many words. He was referred for speech therapy but only had a couple of appointments.

I had no experience of children and didnt take him to baby groups or anything so it was only when my second child started speaking in little sentences at 16 months that I knew how delayed my son must have been.

He's 5 now (6 in August!) and will. Not. Stop. Talking. He's a fantastic reader too! Xx

I changed nothing

You can't edit your posts and no post have been deleted. It's all there still to be seen.

QT, are you new here? It might be worth familiarising yourself with the general ethos of the board.

While IABU tolerates a more robust posting style, on other sub boards we really do not go in for massive hissy fits at random posters we don't agree with.

The general rule, especially on parenting is to be supportive and offer advice, you don't have to agree with everyone else if you have different perspective you just need to post in a restrained and non aggressive manner, and really don't get personal.

Also the post deletion/edit thing. Really can't happen here.

HTH

OP, I hope this little derailment hasn't put you off posting on MN.

OP, do ignore the utterly bizarre vendetta being played out on this thread.

A lot of the posters on here are talking very good sense. Hope you find the best solution for your son.

Like QT mine only said a handful of words at 2/3. She understood everything though. By 3.5 she was chattering away and by 5 was far more eloquent than her peers. At the 2.5 check the HV recommended speech therapy, I refused though as I hoped she get there on her own. Delayed walking too, DD2 is following suit as well.

So lumiona, what would your advice to the OP be?

Oops missed the rest of the thread and how it collapsed into chaos, I agree that some will get there on their own, if you're concerned though, you're doing the right thing by following it up the professionals. Hope all goes well OP.

I do think there's a lot of pressure on these little children to perform the milestones at the 'right' time which is quite unfair. Competitive parenting has a lot to answer for.

Lumiona- your dc is utterly irrelevant to the ops dc.

If you choose to refuse therapy because you were hoping it would all come togehter in the end, that s your decision.

But it doesn't mean the OP should do the same.

Not every child will "get there on their own" and anecdotes about how your child did is not fact.

I think you are looking at milestones from the wrong perspective.

They are not established as some kind of competition, but as a benchmark so that children who are really falling behind can get timely interventions.

There is a wide variety of development built into these assessments, but on the whole they are there to flag up actual, or potential issues.

Which is a good thing.

Being worried about an almost 3 year old who only has a handful of words is a long, long way from competitive parenting!

A 3 year old with a handful of words is very far behind, developmentally. A 2 year old should have 50+ words (and am sure that has changed since dd1 was small - think it was 25 words at 18 months and 100+ at 2 when she was little).

That is a massive gap.

And OP has already said her dc gets frustrated with it. So why not push for help now? Why wait, while her dc gets more frustrated?