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What do you think on ear peircing?

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horsecrazy · 06/09/2006 21:15

My eight year old has nagged and nagged me to have her ears peirced and I finally curcumed today and she had them peirced. They look really nice and she loves them. How do other people feel about this?

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sleepinbeauty · 07/09/2006 14:54

YUK YUK YUK YUK

WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO DO THAT TO THEIR POOR CHILD! LOOKS TACKY AND CHEAP, AND OBVIOUSLY PAINFUL! Sorry, i felt the need to shout then. when i see babies with earrings it makes me want to grab the parents by the short and curlies, throw them back to the council estate they crawled from and tell them to sort their chav little lives out!!

Blossomhill · 07/09/2006 20:42

sleepin beauty ~ just seen this and am so annoyed at your generalisation.

Up until I was 23 I lived on a "council estate" as you so put it.

How dare you be so judgemental. I am disgusted to say the least.

nooka · 07/09/2006 22:48

If my dd insists on earrings I will buy her some clip on ones to wear for dressing up when she is older (she is 6, now so I'm talking quite a few years here). I had mine done at 16 (a friend took me, but they still rang my mother - I was so embarrassed!) but they went horrible very shortly after, and one of the earrings disappeared into my ear and had to be pulled out by the piercer. Now my ears are incredibly sensitive, I can't wear earrings at all and 20 years later they still haven't fully healed up and occasionally get infected. So I think that 16 is too young to look after them properly!

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pointydog · 07/09/2006 23:19

What about ear rings and a dummy, sleepin. Does that make you madder?

fattiemumma · 07/09/2006 23:59

unfortunatly BH it is perfectly acceptable to slag someone publicly for coming from a council estate as therefore they are obviously a chav (YET ANOTHER WORD I FINF HUGELY OFFENSIVE)

if i came on here and said that (shit trying to think of one now err...) i get angry at overpriced bread in corner shops and just want to grab thelittle indian man by the short and curloies and throw him back to his brubby little mudhut that he crawled from....
i would be pretty much banned from MN and could possibly face criminal charges.

but its perfectly acceptable to consider anyone who lives in social housing is A) an unfit parent (this new Blair initiative has got me so angry) B) illiterate C) rude D) probably having criminal tendancies and E) normally found wearing either burberry check or playboy!

mymama · 08/09/2006 00:10

I think in this modern age 8 is okay. My dd just had them done 4 weeks ago and she is 8. When I look around and see 12 year olds with belly button piercings and bleached hair/french nails I think ear piercing is very tame.

Xavielli · 08/09/2006 00:17

What's Blair saying now FM? Sorry, not been paying attention to anything he says recently, got fed up with it.

I live on a council estate, I have 11 body piercings (therefore, as you may well guess, I wouldnt touch burberry with a 10ft barge pole). I would never dream of having my babies ears pierced. I chose to have mine and until they can do the same they won't have them done. When I was pregnant people joked that DS would come out full of holes, I found that quite upsetting.

colditz · 08/09/2006 00:24

sleepinbeauty, you have summed up why I only give people a very vague idea of my address unless they need it.

HOW VERY DARE YOU suggest that because somebody lives on a council estate, they don't care about their children and need to get a life! Why is everyone who lives on a council estate to be considered a chav?

I pride myself on being intelligent, articulate and reasonably open-minded - so called 'chavs' are known for their judgemental behavior - pot, kettle?

I am so saddened that so many people will judge me by my area, and even sadder that they will judge my children.

I know my sons will get less playdates, because people like you assume that council estate raised children swear and have lice. But they are lucky, because at least they will never be exposed to the children of judgemental parents.

sleepinbeauty · 08/09/2006 09:22

ok ok im sorry

searchin · 08/09/2006 10:16

sleepinbeauty, what a front, but what a laugh. how many people silently echo your words

MoreSpamThanGlam · 08/09/2006 10:21

My friend told me when I had my little girl to have her ears pierced. I was horrified at the thought of scaring her in the name of "beauty" for my own benefit. we had a big row about it.

by the way - I lived in a council house, was a single parent and she lived in a huge house with lots of money.
In fact the only taste she had was in her mouth.
And that was when she was making Findus Crispy pankes. You would have loved her Sleepin_Beauty.

TooTicky · 08/09/2006 10:24

Going off at a slight tangent, where can you get nice clip-ons? My dd1 might appreciate some, unless she's having one of her tomboy phases!

Holidaymum · 08/09/2006 10:24

clairs do some really nice magnetic ones, the studs are very convincing.

bubblez · 08/09/2006 10:28

I lived in counsil housing for 22years I'm curtainly not a chav but my dd does have her ears pierced. However, it's not unusual for little greek girls to have their ears pierced early.

BTW I curtainly wouldn't want someone who knows nothing about me to judge me on the basis of where I live/lived.

Slight hijack....hiya X been looking for you look

MoreSpamThanGlam · 08/09/2006 10:40

BTW - Does Daniella Westbrook live in a council house?

saka · 08/09/2006 12:01

sleepinbeauty, what a front, but what a laugh. how many people silently echo your words

Searchin,

How easy it must be to snidely laugh at someone else's expense when you yourself are in a position of priviledge.

How many people actually want to be on a council estate? Up until March I was living in my nice apartment in a posh tokyo suburb, a place owned by my husband. We had our private nursery for my dd, he earnt good money as a banker. From there, me and my daughter have gone to nothing. Due to domestic violence I had to leave and leave everything. I probably will not get anything out of the divorce even. We are now stuck on a council estate situation, due to the fact that when I returned I was pregnant (by my husband) and half blinded due to the attack.

We havent become worse people. My daughter is still the same perfect little girl she was, and I am the same well educated, hardworking decent woman. Except for now we are stuck on benefits (which I am grateful for) until I have the baby and can have surgery. We were nice people before this, and are still the same people, no matter what house we live in.

My daughter is 3. Didnt have her ears pierced as soon as we became poor, and certianly doesnt have lice. I dont even know what a chav is.

It is judgemental people who have made me feel embarressed and ashamed for simply returning to my home country to save all our lives. Who made me go to immigration to even get health care for me and a tiny little girl who both have british passports.

What awful people you and sleeping beauty are, you more so, searchin. At least Sleeping beauty was pfront about her ignorance and unkindness, you prefer to be in on the injoke.

searchin · 08/09/2006 13:39

u think I'm the only one that laughed??? I think not!!!!!!!!!! As for me being MORE awful than sleeping beauty - again, I think not. It's one thing to have derogatory thoughts about others but I would not have the bad manners to actually express it afterall, I could say what the hell I really thought about a lot of issues, here I am unknown. No saka, I suggest YOU stop name calling. Sure I can have a laugh, that doesn't make me a bad person.

sleepinbeauty · 08/09/2006 14:21

Sorry, really just threw that one in as i was in a foul mood (been to funeral yest), but do dislike young children made to have earrings, i know they dont all come from council estates etc.
i apologise to everyone who is offended about my council estate comment, was unfair,sorry.

cutekids · 08/09/2006 14:30

dd1 had her ears pierced for her 6th birthday.everything fine for a whole year then-almost a year to the day-she got an infection and the doctor that saw her advised me to let the hole close up-once all the "gunk" had been released-and let her have them done again when she's older.i actually like seeing little girls with their ears pierced but after the doc telling me that these infections can actually cause cartilage problems etc.,i decided that vanity wasn't worth the pain. dd2,of course,who is six now,keeps saying,"when am I getting my ears pierced Mummy,"...."had hers done when she was six so i want my done".!Fortunately,my ds1-who is 7-hasn't asked yet!!!

MoreSpamThanGlam · 08/09/2006 16:08

Well, i dont feel quite so bad now. Maybe if it were not for hormones and lack of sleep thanks to SPD then i wouldnt be so emotional.

SleepinBeauty - I think you have said your apologies and suffered enough. We all say things from time to time without thought, esp if we have not actually been there ourselves.

Homebirth debate - You are both basically saying the same thing arent you? You respect other peoples choices but have your own preferences? Its just that sometimes the way it comes across, especially without actual eye contact can seem a lot different to what we are actually meaning to say. And anyway - I really want a VBAC waterbirth but have been told no but MW, and this is really important to me as have SPD, but feel like I am being forced to have a homebirth to get the birth that I feel is right for me and my baby. i want a natural as pos birth with hosp facilities should i need them. But Computer says noooo....

saka · 08/09/2006 16:40

Let the posion out searchin, Im sure you will feel a lot better for it.

You come across as snide and judgemental. You didnt just ignore it, or have a private laugh, you had to post your laughter in a gesture of solidarity, hoping the others who share you opinions would also get that illcit buzz from laughing at those less fortunate than yourself.

I will do exactly as I like, searchin, and that includes making my own judgement about you

saka

Blondilocks · 08/09/2006 18:58

There are some lovely clip on earrings in Claire's accessories - they look really real. LO says that they don't hurt so maybe this is a compromise for younger girls to wear to parties etc?

nooka · 08/09/2006 20:20

I think that clip on's are the obvious choice for when little girls want to feel grown up. I can't even wear them because of my earlier experiences, which I regret, because I have short hair and would really like to wear earrings now. It's a bit silly to say that pierced ears somehow suddenly make any mum into a bad/vulgar (isn't that what chav really means?) person just like that, and it's usually a combination of things that people make judgements on (and of course everyone does, I'm afraid, on pretty much everything/anything). Essentially it's just a matter of taste really. Saka, I hope that you find your feet soon, and things improve for you - sounds like you have been through a lot.

searchin · 08/09/2006 21:48

OOOHHHH aren't we full of poison ourselves saka, despite your sorry tale, your justso full of yourself

colditz · 08/09/2006 21:51

Searchin, you are foul.

I know who you were. You were never the physical bully at school, you were the weasel faced little bitch who whispered "So-and-so's mum goes to Oxfam, that's why she has Oxfam clothes".

And I know why you did it too. You did it because it was the only way the other children would be anywhere near you.

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