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What do you think on ear peircing?

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horsecrazy · 06/09/2006 21:15

My eight year old has nagged and nagged me to have her ears peirced and I finally curcumed today and she had them peirced. They look really nice and she loves them. How do other people feel about this?

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expatinscotland · 06/09/2006 22:48

I had mine pierced when I was a baby. It's a Hispanic thing.

Didn't do it to my two girls, though.

NotAnOtter · 06/09/2006 22:48

my daughter turns 12 soon and i am nowhere near saying yes
she is all perfect - why change it?
16 - if then

zoeuk1 · 07/09/2006 10:29

im similar to you expat. me and my 2 sisters had ours pierced when we were very young. its an italian thing! reletives would bring beautiful earings back from italy for us. i agree that it can look chavvy now tho. especially when they have huge hoops off the market that match their mums.

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lucy5 · 07/09/2006 10:40

All baby girls have their ears pierced almost immediately in Spain. In Gibraltar until fairly recently you could get it done in the hospital before you took your baby home.

I still can't get used to seeing babies with earrings in my pregnancy magazine.

PinkTulips · 07/09/2006 10:47

had mine done when i was 5 in germany and i was by no means the first in my class to have them done.

when we came to ireland when i was 7 all but 2 of the girls in a class of 32 had them done,

wasn't allowed to wear dangly earrings til i was a teenager though... just pretty little studs.

i begged to have them done and my mother finally gave in with warnins about how painful it would be and keeping them clean. i'll be letting dd get hers done as soon as she asks and can understand that it'll hurt, etc.

Tutter · 07/09/2006 10:48

am so disappointed that this thing hasn't kicked off yet

Tutter · 07/09/2006 10:49

kerry katona has just had her 5 yo's ears pierced

trinityrhino · 07/09/2006 10:49

cannot stand it on babies, I don't understand the point. maybe when dd1 is 8 I would, not sure would have to wait till she is 8 to know
I begged my mum and she said when I was 16 but caved for 15 birthday

TooTicky · 07/09/2006 10:49

I had to wait until I was 13 (then went on to pierce extra and holes and my ear myself with a lump of ice and a leather needle ). Dd1 pestered and pestered and had them done for her 8th b'day - well, she had one done, couldn't face the 2nd! She got her courage up a few months later for number 2 but they both went a bit manky and awful despite being looked after and one actually disappeared inside her lobe and got healed over for a bit. When she got it out she decided to wait until she was much older, thank goodness! Some people react to it more than others and this is something you can't predict.

TooTicky · 07/09/2006 10:50

Sorry, meant extra holes and my nose!

Medulla · 07/09/2006 10:51

Don't like them on babies and toddlers. Wouldn't let my daughter have them done until she is about 13.

Ask me again in about 5 years time when my 8 year old will no doubt want to be the same as her friends.

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 07/09/2006 10:52

NO NO NO NO NO

Couldnt do it

Ok so my eldest is only 2.1 but NO NO NO NO NO

I was 13, and i let them heal over, done again at 17 - again healed over, and again at 20 - and guess what - healed over.

An unnecessary acessory in my opinion and my girls can have theirs done when a) they can legally have it done without my consent, and b) when they pay for it themselves.

(DH is right with me on this and has said he will divorce me if i got the girls ears pierced)

PinkTulips · 07/09/2006 10:54

too ticky... the ice and needle are a waste of time, far easier just to shove the stud through... thats how i did the rest of my ears! doesn't hurt at all oddly enough whereas the gun is really painful.

TooTicky · 07/09/2006 11:11

PinkTulips you have made me wince!

Orlando · 07/09/2006 11:12

I finally relented and said she could have them done this summer, before starting secondary school. (she's 11)

I wanted to wait until she was 13, but rationalised that she's started to ask for an awful lot of things that her friends have or are allowed to do (MSN, going into town on her own, a page on one of these picture websites, etc etc) and I was saying no to a lot of stuff. The earrings seemed a harmless enough 'privilege' to concede.

Grrr. How did my life become one long round of negotiation? It's like being Kofi Anan.

lanismum · 07/09/2006 11:13

this has all kept very polite and calm

PinkTulips · 07/09/2006 11:14

too ticky

Gingeme · 07/09/2006 11:20

Both my ds's wanted theirs done basicaly because all their friends at school had theirs. I let them have them done when they were 10. They learnt to look after them themselves and they have ear rings they where to school,plain gold studs, and special diamond or coloured ones they are allowed at weekends. I hate seeing babies with ear rings. Poor little things have enough jabs ect without the pain of ear peircing too.

Holidaymum · 07/09/2006 11:21

Deffo when they are well into teens or older! With Malorytowers on this, its dangerous at school with them and most kids are filthy critters so worry about infection, have known it happen yukky! Friend has told her daughter she can get them done when she earns the money herself to do it! I agree and have told my daughter the same.

Hate seeing babies or children with them they just do not look nice. Looks very common

CurrantBun · 07/09/2006 12:27

I think babies and toddlers with pierced ears look really common. I would never, ever consider allowing a child of mine to have their ears pierced under the age of 16. I was told I had to wait until I was 16, and by that time I was the only girl in my class with unpierced ears and decided I liked being different. I didn't have my ears pierced until I was 29, when I got my hair cut into a short Gwyneth Paltrow "Sliding Doors" style and my ears were very exposed.

Personally I've never liked more than one earring in each ear on anyone, whatever their age, and have a particular aversion to anything other than ears being pierced.

Why let a child have/do something just because "everyone else" has/does it if it goes against what you want? I agree that there is a lot of pressure on kids these days to keep up with their classmates, but this is just perpetuating the materialistic, image-obessed society we live in. I was often an outcast at school because my mum wouldn't let me dress a certain way or go to nightclubs at 14 - at the time I thought it was unfair (although it never crossed my mind to rebel) but in hindsight, I'm glad I was brought up the way I was. We can't always have what we want, when we want it. That's life, and the sooner a child learns to realise that, the better.

Mala · 07/09/2006 12:45

I think whatever decision you are happy with is the right one to take. In so many cultures it's completely normal to pierce babies ears, I really don't think it's anyone else's business but the parents. Personally I think it's fine and would do it irrespective of whether someone else thought it was tacky or not.

MamaG · 07/09/2006 12:47

I tend to get a bit shouty on these threads so I'm very pleased with myself for staying so restrained

Holidaymum · 07/09/2006 12:54

go on mamag you know you want to.......

Blu · 07/09/2006 13:00

I think whatever decision you are happy with is the right one to take. In so many cultures it's completely normal to pierce babies ears, I really don't think it's anyone else's business but the parents. Personally I'm not a fan and wouldn't do it irrespective of whether someone else thought it was old-fashioned or not.

KBear · 07/09/2006 13:05

I think DD might be allowed as she starts senior school. I am old-fashioned I suppose but they're not allowed to wear them to school anyway so what's the point? DD has some lovely ones that she wears to parties sometimes that have a spring and kind of clip on (but not painfully like the ones of old!).

TBH DD never asked until her best mate had them done and I just said, yes, when you're 11 and that was the subject closed.

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