What do you think on ear peircing?

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My eight year old has nagged and nagged me to have her ears peirced and I finally curcumed today and she had them peirced. They look really nice and she loves them. How do other people feel about this?

ooh, strong post colditz.

I can laugh at searchin. I live on a council estate when I am in the UK, I have an Oxford degree and grew up in a medieval Old Rectory.

Well, it hurts to be judged by something you have little control over. And my last post is what I really feel, it's like being back at school, I wasn't just being spiteful.

no, I think you are probably right.

never too late for people to change though!

I wasn't allowed to pierce my ears until I left home. Not allowed to go out without an adult even at the age of 14, and when I was I used to be accused of all sorts of foulness. I absolutely hated my mother, and still do. She has no heart, no soul, not a kind bone in her body.

When my little girl is old enough to care for them herself she can have her ears done. It is HER body. Right now, despite her asking, I think she is still too little to care for them herself, or to really know what it means to have pierced ears. Just my personal choice as a mother, no judgement on anyone who thinks or does differently.

Searchin, Im too heavily pregnant, too tired to exchange insults with you. Go away feeling superior, enjoy it, I hope life never deals you a low blow when you are down, let alone someone kick you when you are low. Believe me, it does not feel good. I can be gracious, even if you cannot.

Goodnight ladies

saka

What is wrong with you people having a go at searchin? She expressed an opinion just like the rest of you except for the fact she has not really been calling anyone names or insulting them directly. Ifanyone is to blame it is sleepingbeauty who kicked this off to begin with. So what if searchin had a little laugh, why are you so assuming she is priviledged and superior, thats very judgemental also. As for you Saka, why not begin another thread to tell your tales of woe. This thread was all about ear piercing afterall. Searchin I feel sorry for you who spoke up and has been slated very unjustly I must say. People who speak up need to be counted, this country could be a better place for us all. Furthermore I am SURE you are not the ONLY one who found sleepingbeautys post humourous. We are all judged one way or another and put into "boxes", some of us obviously have a chip on our shoulders if we are going to be so verbally abusive ( saka, coldiz) spring to mind.

After alittle peer pressure and lots and lots of begging on the daughters part my mate finally gave in and allowed her dd to get hers pierced, btw she is nearly 7.

She got them done at the end of last term so that there was 6wks to let them settle and be ok for school.

Another friend of mine then decided she wanted to buy her 1st pair of earings............ so she did and put them in, this is after about 2/3 wks of getting them pierced (stupid cow)
they were in france at the time otherwise i would have stopped it...

When they got back i checked them, (its now 5wks since she had them done)

The poor child must have been in agony, they were in a right state, extremely sore with puss coming out of them.. I pointed the problem out to my mate and told her to let me please take them out (demanded more like)

They healed more aless straight away and you cant even really see the hole....

I told her she could get them redone when she was old enough to do it herself, if she wanted.... think its hopefully put her off for life......
xxx

Of course I have a chip on my shoulder, council estates cvan be downright unpleasant to live on without the assumption that we are all child-abusing scrotum sacks. I never said I didn't have a chip on my shoulder, but that doesn't change the fact that Searchin isn't expressing an opinion at all, she is being bloody spiteful.

Agree 100% with Colditz. Living on a council estate is no more an indication of what kind of parent or person you are than the colour of your skin or the job that you do...anyone that makes sweeping assumptions about things like that (or stands behind someone who does and sniggers) is a narrow minded idiot, and deserves to be judged as such!
Having grown up on a council estate and lived in one until very recently I know exactly the type of people who will judge you on it, loved your earlier post Colditz, sums up the type of person searchin is exactly!
It is amazing how certain people respond to me now I no longer live in a council estate, and I take great pleasure in telling them where I come from,I don't want myself or dd to be anywhere near people who are so pathetic.

Why is it that two weeks ago Mumsnet received huge plaudits across the british press for the way in which it offers mums invaluable constructive support and advice, and today I feel - like Colditz - that I am back in the playground of the spiteful snobbish little girls school I thought I had left behind 2 decades ago.

I don't care where people live nor indeed what their private opinions are. I do care though when people think they have a right on this site to personally attack other people and air opinions they wouldn't dare utter to someone's face or indeed at work, on the train or at the dinner table. Just because there is no law to stop people discriminating on the basis of social status does not make it any more acceptable than racism or sexism or religious bigotry.

And for those sniggering at all the council house jibes just remember that there but for the grace of God (or indeed a deity of your choice) go all of us

lol at searchins name change to give herself support!!!! friendsforever my ass.

someone being unfortuanate enough to have to live on a council estate doesn't automatically mean they hold a certain set of beliefs or behave in a certain way and it is such incredible ignorance to say that.

sleepin beauty made a silly comment in the heat of the moment which she has had the grace to apologise for, you searchin are simply an ignorant, spiteful, vicious little girl who needs to grow up and learn how adults behave before you really hurt someone

I agree with Whiffy and Colditz.

Its all gone quiet on the searchin front too.

I grew up on a council estate, and then 6 years ago bought a lovely house with my DH, which has 4 beds and a hot tub in the garden in a very desirable area. Last year my DHs company was scammed for over £100k and this year we almost had our house repossed. we were offered a 3 bed ex crack house on a council estate.

My point is also this - there but for the grace of god.

Searchin really is one of the girls that would laugh when her bully mate slapped the glasses off of the vulnerable girl at school and then would tell all and sundry about it, even though she didnt do it herself. Laugh about it, but justify herself by saying in a whiny voice "It wasnt meeeee". Vile. I hated girls like that and invariably gave them a slap.