I have just heard the most unbelievable converstion - bad language included!

[SecurMummy]

I have just heard this conversation from a family going past out house - it has really upset me for the lad involved

I am going to leave the language in as I think it is quite a relevent part of the converstion - and there wouldn't be many words left without it!

Dad, I can't ride this bike it goes to slow.
change fxxxing gear then
I can't they are stuck
just put your fxxxin legs into it
I am but it is really stiff
why you have to fxxxing spoil everything you little dick
I'm not I can't make it go faster
get on it and get going dick
I can't my legs hurt making it go
you're an fxxing mary your sister can ride it
I know that is why she goes slow dad
fxxing get in front you dick you have spoilt our trip out again your a fxxing mary we're all going home
can't we just walk dad
No we fxxing can't just cause your brother is a dick were off home

I feel so sorry for them I estimate the lad was around 7yo.

it's your choice, Sobernow, but I can't imagine that anyone could really object to children pointing things out, however loudly. I know what you mean about the 'silent train', but there's no rule that says everyone has to be quiet!
might be different if they were (say) banging the tables up and down (like my 2 did last time on a train ).
in your position I would worry that I was teaching them not to ask about the world and that what they saw or said was not important.

My Mother used to shout and swear at me a lot when she was divorcing my Dad. In hindsight I can see she was incredibly stressed and upset and as I was an only child, I was the only one around to vent these feelings on. I am not excusing her behaviour, she once hit after speaking with my Dad on the phone and walked out for four days leaving me by myself, I was only 11 but luckily my aunt lived nearby so iwas able to go to her and be looked after. We speak now but are not close, she has far more time for my DD than me.

Being a parent is difficult at times but hopefully we learn from our parents mistakes, I would never swear at my child that like ignorant, good for nothing piece of crap did to his DS, it does make you wonder what life is like at home for those children if he speaks to them like that outside!!!