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I have just heard the most unbelievable converstion - bad language included!

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SecurMummy · 28/08/2006 18:51

I have just heard this conversation from a family going past out house - it has really upset me for the lad involved

I am going to leave the language in as I think it is quite a relevent part of the converstion - and there wouldn't be many words left without it!

Dad, I can't ride this bike it goes to slow.
change fxxxing gear then
I can't they are stuck
just put your fxxxin legs into it
I am but it is really stiff
why you have to fxxxing spoil everything you little dick
I'm not I can't make it go faster
get on it and get going dick
I can't my legs hurt making it go
you're an fxxing mary your sister can ride it
I know that is why she goes slow dad
fxxing get in front you dick you have spoilt our trip out again your a fxxing mary we're all going home
can't we just walk dad
No we fxxing can't just cause your brother is a dick were off home

I feel so sorry for them I estimate the lad was around 7yo.

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ilovecaboose · 28/08/2006 18:52

. Poor kids.

pepsi · 28/08/2006 18:54

what a nasty man, poor little lad.

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SherlockLGJ · 28/08/2006 18:56

Well they have a great future in front of them, not.

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SecurMummy · 28/08/2006 18:57

I am surprisingly upset about this! I don't know why I ahve heard this stuff before where I lived previously (daily ) but I just wanted to tell his Dad where to stick himself! (not like me at all!) I am still trembling but am not sure if it is anger or upset!

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pudding77 · 28/08/2006 18:58

Makes you wonder why some people have kids if they treat them like that

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SecurMummy · 28/08/2006 19:08

What gets me is, I know the holidays get tense etc, but this was clearly supposed to be a dad and kids trip out. When you take your kids out you put all your frustrations to one side don't you? I thought the point was to ry to get away from teh crap that has gone on and just enjoy the moment!

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Blossomhill · 28/08/2006 19:10

People like this make me feel so sick. How can you talk to your children like that.
IMHO it is cruelty.

fireflyfairy2 · 28/08/2006 19:10

He sounds like a vile bully to me What a total arse... ah yeah, makes him feel good to talk down to a small child

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SecurMummy · 28/08/2006 19:15

That also seems odd - IME these conversatons don't make the adult happy - they jsut seem angry. Like the child is to blame, they don't seem to go away satisfied, just angry and unhappy.

So WHY DO IT THEN? Grr it just makes me so cross!

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threebob · 28/08/2006 19:19

It just goes to show that to a child any attention is better than none, or else why would he keep trying after the first fxxing mary?

the dad is the sort that goes into school and says "I don't know where he gets his language from, it's not fxxing me!"

SpaceCadet · 28/08/2006 19:19

poor little lad..makes me think of that verse.."if a child lives with critisism..etc"

jollyfolly · 28/08/2006 19:27

i heard a similar 'put your children down in public' conversation in town recently where the father was behaving like a total bully.... it really upset me for a long time after. The mother (quite possibly also bullied) was just lurking in the back ground and not defending her child at all.... although she did give him a hug as the father stormed off..... sad what some people feel is acceptable behaviour!

Adorabelle · 28/08/2006 20:10

Complete and utter scumbag

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WestCountryLass · 28/08/2006 20:25

Poor little love, fancy landing a Dad like that

WideWebWitch · 28/08/2006 20:27

How sad and horrible. I hope someone at school is nice to him. Where do these people get off speaking to children like this? There used to be quite a lot of it outside ds's old school, it really made me sad. And I knew I'd only get a mouthful if I said anything.

malteser1 · 28/08/2006 20:33

Poor lad - his confidence and sense of worth has been smashed at that very time when you should be making your kids feel like they are the best in the world at everything just for trying.
This type of parent will be shrugging and saying its not his fault when his son is in trouble at school, gets in trouble with the police and grows up into a horrible adult himself.
It's such a shame but with bullying like that the lad is either going to be completely introverted, or go the opposite way and follow the terrible example that is being set to him.
SecurMummy - if they cycle past again sneak a stick through dad's wheel spokes then he comes flying off his bike like a f*ing mary.

intergalacticwalrus · 28/08/2006 20:36

People like this make me so

My mother used to call me a stupid bitch and used to undermine me quite often. It made me feel shitty. I still have fairly low self esteem now.

I have vowed never to speak to my children like that.

Thomcat · 28/08/2006 20:39

My mate was on a train just recently and a mum was screaming at her kids 'you little f@*@ you're always poncing' and went on and on and on like this the whole train journey.

my mate rang me in tears from the loo. she was desperate to sream something back at this woman but she didn't look the type to mess with and her boyfriend was pleading with he not to get involved.

So sad.

Blossomhill · 28/08/2006 21:00

I am always amazed at how some people "speak" to their children.

I remember first day at dd's school and heard a mum call her child a c**t.

Also over heard a mum threaten to slap her 4 yr old if she got her new top dirty in nursery.

Makes my blood boil. Especially when I know so many people that were desperate to have children and for one reason or other couldn't and you have people like that having them left right and bloody centre

WestCountryLass · 28/08/2006 21:14

I know someone who was indeed desperate for her DS, cannot now have anymore children and had him via IVF and she speaks to her little boy like this.

I don't think it is about the wanting a child, I think some parents struggle to cope, get into a negative cycle and that then becomes normal for them.

Blossomhill · 28/08/2006 21:18

I am sorry but there is no excuse whatever the circumstances to talk to your child like that.

HyacinthB · 28/08/2006 21:32

That's awful - no wonder you're upset

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SecurMummy · 28/08/2006 21:35

malteser1 good idea!

Blossomhill at the 4yo that is so sad!

I have been thinking about this and no matter which way up I turn it, I just cannot make any sense of it at all. I hate myself if I accidently say something that makes my children sad (ie when you get hold of the wrong end of a story and accidently support the bad guy or whatever). I spent ages the other day wondering if I had done the right thing over splitting two sweets between me and dd! (she liked both, I only liked one so I had the one I liked and she had the other - I felt guilty, maybe I should have asked her more - maybe she only said she liked both because she knew I only liked one....I mean wtf??!)

Anyway, my point was that the sum total of my musings is that the guy is cracked and needed a good slap

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