I can't see the wood for the trees, so tired and think I'm doing everything wrong.
DS1 is 2.5yrs, very active & demanding
DS2 is 6 months - feeds to sleep, has no rountine, is now fighting sleep. Is still being swaddled (wombie) despite being able to roll. He is still feeding every 90mins to 2hrs. Waking twice a night at least. Can't self settle. Not interested in food at all. Wakes at 5.30-6am every morning. He hasn't slept since 11 am this morning. I'm exhausted.
I don't know where to start rectifying everything. I was so much more structured and rountine based so I knew when DS1 was hungry/tired etc. with DS2 I just am so busy with DS1 I don't know what I'm doing or when so that is why he is feeding so much as I just feed when crying (also because he feeds to sleep I feed then as well).
I want to stop feeding to sleep & for him to have a loose rountine (I used Easy with DS1) I would also like him to self settle and don't mind CC as used it with DS1 as it was great. Only prob is because I don't have a rountine I can't be sure he's not hungry when he cries etc.
Also I've tried to stop swaddling but he wakes every 5-10mjns - its a nightmare.
I need some encouragement - where should I start? Lengthen gaps in between feeds (would this help with him taking solids) stop swaddling or well what? I just can't see the woods for the trees and feel like I not what I'm doing wrong but haven't got the energy to tackle it all in one go.
Help me get it sorted for my own sanity!